Around the World

Some folks still think that sex is the same for everybody, wherever they go. What about a trip around the world, getting to know customs and curiosities of certain peoples in different parts of the planet.
In South Africa, at the Zulu tribe, a king could keep as many as hundred wives. Certain customs of this tribe are somewhat peculiar- being sexual relation prohibited after a nightmare, during a storm. The same rule applies in case of a husband killing a big cobra, a crocodile or a hyena.
In Afghanistan, back at the Taliban regime, women’s sexuality was literally non-existent. They were obliged to cover themselves with burkas, with o­nly eyes and nose protected by a wet mesh enabling sight. When turning adolescents, they were forbidden from striking a single word with men, except parents. Looking over at or remaining more than five minutes with a man other than a family member, deemed adultery and bound to pelting at public premises until death. Let alone breast-feeding or shoe trampling sounds, totally out of question. Women aren’t allowed jewelry flashing in public as well as nails polished showing or fingers would be chopped off. Households with women in should display painted windows to avert outsiders from peering over.
After toppled the Taliban regime TV broadcasted footage of a people celebrating their freedom. Theses images of a country undergoing reconstruction came to show that some women had already abolished Burkas. Every which transformation can affect the exercising mode of sexuality.
In any aspect, transformations of a culture in a whole usually tend to be somewhat sluggish and, in that, o­nly time will take care of showing results.
In Alaska, some Inuit tribes have the custom of offering, or even better, placing up for grabs, their wives or daughters as a gesture of friendship and beckoning. This traditional “sexual hospitality” can also be found in certain places of Siberia and Polynesia. The civilized world still reluctant towards such welcoming sexuality custom, so much for the male population.
In Angola, when a man is crowned Saba (a king head of a group of tribes), he receives as a gift a virgin and ought to have sex with her in front of his subjects. In the Ashanti tribe, in Ghana, the widows are obliged to have sexual relations with strangers so to rid themselves from the spirit of the former husband.
In Botswana, men are allowed polygamy. When they are absent, their wives are permitted to keep sexual relations with each other. In this country, the small vaginal lips “as big as bat wings” are considered attractive for them. As children, they are used to pull their small lips, since used to kill bats and after burning their wings, smear its ashes o­n cuts done around the area.
After all so far described, it’s undeniable that the manner we exercise sex is the net result of social-cultural influences of a people in a certain age. How about you, still thinking that sex can be the same for everybody?

Kisses,

Jesse~

Male Climax

Also the Male orgasm would features particularities and curiosities for the female gaze. Thus male orgasm stands for the last stage of a cycle linked to the sexual response. Otherwise known as sexual peak by characteristically releasing built up tensions, which come followed by muscular spasms triggered.
To our better understanding let’s shed light on the stages in which comprise the male sexual response. In accordance to conducted surveys by experts on the human sexuality there are four phases comprising our sexual response…
Arousal is the physiological response triggered by external stimuli on which point interpreted as sexual urge. There are significant alterations in this phase such as vascular clogging (increased ongoing blood) and myotonia (involuntary contraction of muscular fibers).
Roughly speaking the penis gets harden on sprees of desire, as of neurological input some such haemostatic (blood flow constriction). A desire sign gets triggered in the brain which in turn sends off signals throughout the body. All takes place in a somewhat subdue manner, in a blink of an eye, figure of speech.
Leaving all set for sexual intercourse due to our guest star the man’s testosterone level, which sets him a part when it comes to reproducing.
The plateau, this phase might occur prior or post ejaculation, promoting testicular elevation thus clogging up the scrotal sac.
Sexual climax could be divided in two sets first of all there’s contraption of the prostrate followed by the release of seminal fluid (within pause intervals). once geared in action there’s no way to block it up once involuntary muscular contraction would set tension released.
Resolution aka refractory period, in this stage the man looses erection and bound to remain numb to sexual stimuli for time being.
There’s no divergent relation so as to crisscross orgasm with ejaculation. As are processes profoundly intertwined with neither origins nor functions alike. A man derives orgasm from a neurological pleasure doom. What happen is shortly upon striking orgasm as it were, seminal fluid builds up in the prostate gland bulb which sparks off certain sensation of eminent ejaculation. And ultimately so takes place the whole dynamic process from then on. It begins by drawing the testicles close together, in that the discharge of seminal fluid promoted by muscular ripples on sexual desire threshold.
The link between orgasm and ejaculation lies within the fact that a man can reach climax without shooting or even shoot his load inducing pleasure aside from sexual intercourse. Out of curiosity at regards semen is that might sting if getting in contact with the eyes.
Some are bound to produce less fluid by growing old. So those worryingly about it are truly producing it on average.
In order to increase the shooting load all he has to do is lengthen the elapsed time on the initial phases of sexual arousal aka foreplay. Otherwise sexuality as offhanded is not a rule, but specific to each and every one so much as lifestyle and background.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Rapport

When two matters bearing plastic capability, such as wax or clay, get blended in, are tended to merger into shape by the slightest pressure applied. No sexual puns intended.
On the same token, each element deforms the other, which in turn would get deformed. Both surfaces while in contact would come together ultimately from head to toe and bit by bit. The same applies to two human figures, whenever there’s absence of any significant emotional and muscular strain. So what’s with sexual approach?
What’s in sex for those into moments so intimate? If there’s ever any strain, the two bodies could barely entwine and would hardly adapt into each other.
As it so happens, coming to think of two uneven solids placed alongside each other. Hence the likelihood of both areas in effective contact being significantly smaller, therefore the “acknowledgement” that one object would bear of the other might be extremely limited.
Wilhelm Reich attributed to the “muscular armor of the persona” important properties elsewhere. By and large people got used to say that their innermost would not be moved by their looks, being it “molded” because of others’. Some went as far as claiming that their own “physical frame” got nothing to do with themselves. After all there might be a certain outlook and another inwards. Incidentally, when it comes to letting it all hang out, in the best of it, when the “visage” comes undone in all of a sudden, they can’t help simply falling over themselves. That’s exactly what happens when getting shockingly news. Otherwise if tripped over and go off balance. Upon sudden shock or fall, there’s the impression gathered that our “innerself” is not there.
The dissipation of the so-called” shield”, yet the soothing of muscular strains that’s consisted of our demeanors, comes followed by some gradual yield of self-consciousness. Any one lives up on a regular basis this experience by the patterns of sleep inducement. By the same rate that we’re getting ourselves wrapped into sleep, our muscles turn limber, and meantime, we loose consciousness.
According to Reich, while at sexual intercourse so much could happen likewise. If sex turns out really satisfactorily, stroke exchanging would by all means come followed by the soothing of strains and the loss of self-consciousness, so far vanishes thoroughly any sense of acumen throughout orgasmic shuddering.
Most people would react to those sensations as if under threat of a great danger, the danger of psychological dismantling, by the annihilation of “innerself”. If people happen to brace themselves strongly fended against this so-called “threat”, and so love turned out to be such a inglorious pursue, in which the defeat is bound to the “offender” much to the “offended”.
The give and take of themselves means letting go, by a split second, the hostile world through which our “bodyframe” was cased. Furthermore, hailing in a cozy corridor, balmy, tender and overwhelming.
Such is the depth of emotional insight as boastfully provided by their sexual rapport, when spawns in its full range of motion.
Actually, why is that a great many people out there fears of letting themselves in for loving affairs? Grounded on the studies conducted by Reich there could be envisaged that the response to this questioning not lies in each individual taken separately, so much as the society itself and the sate of affairs it dictates the personality framework of ilk.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Macho Men

Why do women fall in love? We know why us men fall in love. We fall in love with the great sex that she provides. It isn't brain surgery. We all know that to be a fact. When you fall in love with a woman it isn't about how well diverse she is in Roman history, it is because she can suck a mean pecker. There is a reason why God made it so that women can get pregnant. It isn't because it would hurt too much to pass a baby through our dick. It is because they are emotional creatures. They rely on their might, while we rely on your manhood. Our desire to build, conquer, and drink a cold beer on a hot day. Women tend to be the ones that take care of the babies more.

They tend to all of their whims and whimpers all day long. It isn't because they like it, it is because they feel the desire to do it from inside of them. You think that a woman wants a man who is caring and sweet. How many times did you pretend to be that way just so you could get some nookie? More times than you can count?
A woman doesn't want that because it is too much like themselves. They want something that isn't like them. That is why you like boobies as much as you do, because you don't have them. We all want what we don't have. We see the rich people on television and we want to be like them. We see famous people who act in movies and we pretend to be like them. We see men slam dunking a basketball and we wish we could do it.
The same is true with a woman. She wants what she doesn't have. She is already emotional, she doesn't need more of that. She is already loving and kind, she doesn't want to get more of that. Have you ever looked at the big burley biker guy who has a hot chick next to him and wonder how he got her? I mean the guy looks like he hasn't bathed in a year and probably couldn't write a complete sentence if he was forced to. Women like the big macho guys. Men who strut their stuff and act like they don't give a damn about anyone but themselves. Guys who act like this bang more women than you can count. Why? Why you ask that these guys get laid all the time? It is two reasons really.
One is that women are looking for something to fill the void. They have a gap inside them and they need someone to fill it. They don't need a pussy, they need a real man who can take care of them. They want a man to protect them. After all, people are just animals. She wants a man who can take charge and protect her from the evil from the world. She wants to be a helpless damsel in distress. Some women like a man who has been around sexually. That drives them wild. If they think you are a stud, then you will be able to please them in bed. I think this goes back to the animal qualities in people. If you have had sex with lots of women, then you have passed on your genes to a lot of women. If this is the case, then you are a superior male. Only a superior male would get laid so many times in the animal world.
Think of it like this, if he is an asshole he probably isn't too bright. He is more than likely to be the type that looses his emotions easily. His thought process isn't well thought out, instead he reacts instead of spending his time with prevention. Women find this stupidity attractive. This means they can figure them out. This also means they will be easy targets for mind games. The key thing to understand about women is that they tend to go for the simple guys. Let your testosterone hang loose and let it fly. This will turn her on if she is into manly men. Roll your sleeves up and show your muscles. She will dig that.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex on the Second Date?

There maybe some things you are doing that make the date stop dead in its tracks Do you spend half of the date talking about that hot piece of ass that you dated last week? Do you talk her ear off about how your last girlfriend screwed you over really bad? Do you talk about how you never get lucky? This is why you aren't getting that second date. Women are like dogs, they are territorial creatures. You are their territory. If they could, they would probably piss on you to leave their mark. Instead, when you get married they do this by picking out the clothes that you wear. Stop talking about your past dates and your evil ex's.

That will drive her way from you than if she was driving a expensive foreign sports car. If you feel it coming, bite your tongue so you don't make the same mistakes. Make sure that you shower and shave before you go out. Make sure that you look and smell good. Spend some money on a good hair cut. Don't go looking like a greasy smelly slob. She will judge you by your appearance. Don't skimp on it, or you won't get that second date. Make sure your finger nails are trimmed and make sure there is no dirt underneath them.
Make sure that you smell good. Have some nice smelling soap or cologne handy. Don't over do it. Don't make her jump away when she gets close to you. Use common sense. If you can afford it, get your teeth cleaned often by the dentist. This will leave your teeth looking their best. Make sure that before a date you always brush your teeth. After you are done brushing your teeth, look in the mirror to make sure there is nothing left in your teeth.
Don't drink coffee or eat a ton of garlic or onions before you go on your date. She will take one whiff of your breath and run for the hills. Eat a mint or something before you pick her up. The true champ at getting laid might tell you to trim your pubes before you go on a date. You never know, you might get lucky?! I don't know about this one. Personally, I like the afro look. Though if you don't, trim to your hearts content. Make sure that you know where you are going. Don't drive in circles trying to find the place that you are taking her out to. If you aren't sure where the place is, scope it out before you get to her house. She will loose interest real fast if she is listening to her stomach growl while you try to locate the restaurant.
Never ask for her to pick you up. This shows weakness. What kind of woman would want a man who can't drive? Never take a bus or walk. If you don't drive, take a taxi or borrow a friend's car. This makes you look like a freak. The first thing that will probably come to her mind is, is that you lost your drivers license for driving drunk. She won't want a second date with a drunk.
Here are some things you can watch out for while you are at the restaurant.
Don't drink too much. If you drink too much you will end up acting silly or saying stuff that you will have wished you never said. Don't be cheap. Dust off that wallet and spend a few bucks! Don't forget her. Don't go talking to the buddy that just walked by. Say a few words and then go back to the conversation. If you don't, you will loose points in the game.
Don't touch her. Don't go trying to find ways to touch her while you eat your meal. That will just make you look like a pervert or someone who is desperate. Don't whine and complain. No one wants to hear that! Don't comment on her body. Don't go telling her that she has a nice rack while you are slurping down your soup. This will make you look like a fool who only wants to get in bed with her.
If you follow these easy to follow steps, you will be well on your way to your second date. Keep your cool buddy, use your brain. You will bag that second date if you work hard enough.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Dating Seduction

If you are a student or work full time, there is one thing that you know. There is no time for anything these days. It takes all you can do to make ends meet, let alone find a lover. The trend these days is to find a temporary lover. Someone you can spend some of your free time with, but not feel like you have to dedicate your whole life to. This is becoming popular among professional women. They have needs, but not enough time to per sue a long term relationship. There can be many benefits of this kind of relationship. I already know what you are thinking, sex. Yes, the sex can be a great benefit. If both of you are comfortable with the idea of having sex. I know what you are thinking, 'Its all about the sex'. That really isn't true. I mean yes, the sex is great with someone when there is no strings attached to it. Nothing is more satisfying than being able to please yourself and your partner without having to worry about her bitching about the trash that needs taken out afterwards.
Everyone needs a companion. We all need to feel attractive and feel that we are worth something to someone. I like to think of this as a unleaded relationship. You are there when there is a need, if the other person needs someone to talk to, and to full fill both of your sexual needs. It is like being in a relationship without all the nagging and other responsibilities that you have. There is no need to worry about her bills or putting food on her table, or her having to worry about doing your laundry or taking care of the house.
There are potential dangers of relationships like this though.
Sometimes people may begin to mistake sex for love. When it comes to oral sex she could suck a golf ball through a straw. After awhile you begin to feel comfortable with her and you come to expect the sex. Then after awhile you fall in love with how her ass looks like a heart when she bends over, and it is all down hill from there. This is true with women as well. They begin to feel comfortable in bed with a partner and then they mistake lust for love. They enjoy the pleasure that you are able to give them, and in their mind they think it is love. While the only thing you are thinking about after you have sex is how weird the sexual position was, they are thinking about a house and kids.
Often times these types of relationships turn into long term relationships. The sex is good, you don't want to ruin a good thing right? Why would you turn a hot piece of ass down for a lonely time with you and your bottle of hand lotion on a Saturday night? These types of relationships are never good ones to per sue long term. They tend to end abruptly and cause a lot of pain. Every man knows what I am talking about.
One time I was involved with this hot piece of ass. The sex was great and he had a good time together. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. She fell in love with me. It was no longer just sex for her, but I was now her boyfriend. That was news to me! After I got sick of her, I dumped her. All I wanted was some sex and a friend, she wanted a new husband to take care of her while she sat on her ass all day doing nothing. There is too much tuna in the sea for that!
After it was all over she became a wreck and started stalking me. She told me how she loved me and how I really loved her but I was in denial. I wasn't in denial, I loved what she had between her legs. There was nothing more to it than that. She spent years chasing me and making my life a living hell. It seemed that every other day she said she wanted to kill herself because she couldn't live without me. She ruined my dating life. What woman wants to be with a man who has a crazy ex who calls him all day long and shows up at the house crying?
A temporary lover is a great thing if both of you understand it is exactly that. Both of you can get your needs met and enjoy each others' company. I would be cautious with this sort of thing though. Because women tend to use sex as something to reel you in. They think if they put out, that you will fall in love with them and live happily ever after. In truth what happens is, they fall in love and hurt themselves. Then they make your life hell and try to ruin everything for you. If you are too busy for a real relationship, then this is the way to go. If you don't have nerves of steel, then you might want to consider buying a pocket pussy from your local sex shop.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Positions

There is no right or wrong way to enjoy sexual intercourse with your partner. If you are both having a good time, it's right for you. That is what should be the important deciding factor. The entire reason we have sex is to experience pleasure with our partners, as long as both parties are having a good time, you are doing everything right :-) There are a LOT of different positions for sexual intercourse! Some people prefer to be lying down, some standing, some sitting. Some men prefer being on top of his partner, some underneath, , and some prefer their own tried and true favourite positions. You need to discover what works best for you and your partener.

The Positions We'll present the most popular positions, and what features make each one fun - plus any minuses to each position. Some people love to fuck while lying on their sides. Some people read the Karma Sutra and try some truly amazing positions for making love, and some prefer their own tried and true favourite positions. Please remember that when trying any new sexual position, the man should be gradual inserting his penis into his partner and should begin with a slow stroke till both partners have had time to accustom themselves to the new position so that they feel more confident.
Missionary Style The missionary position is the most common position for intercourse in the western culture. The reason we call it the missionary position is because in the nineteenth century, Christian missionaries considered it the only "proper" position for intercourse. These missionaries tried to convince foreigners to adopt this position as they claimed it was less "animalistic" than other sexual positions. What it basically is is the man gets on top of the woman, with both partners facing each other. He gets between her legs, inserts his penis, and lies on her while using his hands or elbows to hold up part of his weight and to move him. In reality, the man on top position can be pretty versatile. Some people enjoy this position, feeling it is intimate because you can see your partner's face. If the woman holds herself just right, she can easily enjoy the man's pubic bone rubbing her clitoris (allowing her to orgasm). If her partner wants deeper penetration than the missionary position typically offers, his partner can raise her legs and he can pull her forward.
Woman On Top Many couples prefer the female superior position also known as the woman on top position. A lot of women like this position because they can control how deep and how hard the penis' strokes are. By experimenting with the positions of the body to cause changes in the angles of insertion, the woman can frequently enjoy better stimulation of the clitoris lying on top. Also the woman can kneel over her partner or squat over her partner. She can face him or face away from him. A squatting position allows the woman to use her calves as well as her thigh muscles for motion. Or while squatting, she can put her feet on the floor in order to partly stand and then lower herself. This position is great if either the man or the woman wish to masturbate the woman's clitoris. Woman on top is also a perfect position for a woman who likes to look at her partner's face during intercourse.
Lying On Your Sides This is the best position for the woman who likes to masturbate during intercourse. It leaves her front area fully open to be touched. Many women find that the easiest position to allow use of a vibrator when being fucked from behind when both partners are on their sides. Also there are amazing opportunities for the man to fondle his partner's breasts - or anything else he likes. Some couples find that far more body to body contact occurs while spooning on their sites, allowing them to feel connected with their partner. A lot of men also find they can last longer in this position because it does not allow as vigorous a stroke. It is not possible while spooning to easily enjoy a long stroke, but a deep stroke works quite well. This is an excellent position for intercourse when the woman is in her last few months of pregnancy as long as you are careful not to fuck too deeply. Experiment a little with this position - try it with the woman's upper leg up, or down. Try thrusting in slightly different angles. You can find a LOT of different sensations using this position!
Standing Up Adventurous couples find standing during intercourse can be quite exciting. The easiest way is to have the woman bend over. This way, her vagina is available and open, and her partner will find himself able to penetrate especially deeply. Also you can enjoy looking down at your partner in a totally different way. If you're a guy who enjoys using a little more athletic prowess, this position is a good one. You use more energy standing than you do lying down or sitting. Also it takes more balancing, so be sure that both partners have positioned themselves and are well-balanced before attempting to have intercourse while standing - you wouldn't want to fall. Also some people sit the woman on a desk or dresser. The male stands while his partner sits with her pelvis forward and her legs apart at the edge of the surface. Man standing woman sitting is a great position because it allows the man intense control of his thrusts. Also, the women can control the angle that the penis enters her by shifting her hips, allowing her much better orgasms using this position and masturbation together. Experimenting with new sexual positions can keep sex fresh and new. Each new position can bring new experiences in touching, in angles, in prolonging your sexual experience or in making it more passionate. Some positions may allow one of you to have more intense orgasms, or to find different sensations and different feelings in joining your bodies. Having new positions and experimenting with them can provide endless variety to any relationship, whether established or brand new.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Acting Out Porn

Most guys like looking at porn. There is nothing wrong with this. The problem is when they watch something on film and try to do it. You soon realize that you can't do it. Do you remember the first time you saw someone on television attempt a stunt on a bike and you tried to do it? You fell on your ass and ran home to cry to your mother. You might not cry to your mother when you can't perform a sex act, unless you are in some weird incest cult, but its all the same. I wonder how many people really get to spray spunk into their partners face, or get to slap there dick on there arse. Is porn really comparable to REAL sex?!?!? You can't expect yourself to be able to do the things they do. They are pros at it. I know that sounds funny, sometimes I wish I was a pro at having sex. That is what they are though. That is why they get paid the big bucks to show it all for the camera. They can bend themselves into positions that we can't even imagine. The women can suck a cock twice as long as a normal woman can. When was the last time you saw a woman take a huge penis in her back door and wonder how she could take all of it?
Some women are into trying out what they see on the television. That doesn't mean though that they play with themselves with the sex toys all day long watching porn. That means that they are really into the sex acts. That is like hitting pay dirt my friend. If you were at a casino lights would be flashing telling you that you won a jackpot. Well, let's slow down a little here. There is one problem, kind of a big problem. Most men see these things in the movies and they are too embarrassed to ask their lover to try it out. I'm not sure why this is, but maybe it has to do with the fact that you have to admit to watching porn. If you never ask, you will never know. If you run under the blankets every time you want to try something new, she won't ever know what is on your mind. Though it might seem like it at times, women aren't mind readers. You need to tell her what you want to do. Don't be ashamed. Chances are there are new things she would like to do as well. If you keep an open line of communication open, you stand a better chance of acting out your fantasizes. What do you have to loose? You need to keep in mind that just because she likes to get nasty, that doesn't mean that she is nasty. You have to keep a different mind set when you see your woman doing these sex acts compared to the woman you see in the movie doing it. In your mind the woman in the movie is a dirty slut, in real life, the woman doing this to you is the woman you have to wake up next to. If you expect to have a lasting relationship that lasts more than one bang, you need to be open. If you plan on being with this woman for a long period of time, then you need to be able to discuss your sexual dreams. That is the only way a relationship can last. If you don't you will end up with a lot of built up tension or one hell of a credit card bill from buying porn videos all the time. Its not worth keeping your fantasizes quite. Be open, be honest. You will find out that she has some weird sexual desires to. Have fun with them. If you expect her to go along with yours, you have to expect to go along with hers. Life is a two way street, the only one way streets are guys named Cindy who like it in the ass from another guy.
You should buy some oils and maybe even some kinky costumes. Do a little role playing in bed. Be that big bad rent collector and she doesn't have the money to pay this month. Tell her that she will have to lie on her back and screw you for this months rent. Do kinky stuff that turns both of you on. Usually there is some middle ground that you can reach regarding things like this. Make it fun, be an actor. Try to win a Grammy award. Don't be unrealistic. Don't expect her to be able to roll up in a ball like putty while you bang her. Chances are most men and women can't get themselves in the positions that they see in the movies. That is just a fact you will have to live with. Instead, take away bits and pieces that you know you will be able to do. Do a variation of doggy style or something like that. Have her lay on a pillow so her buttocks points higher up than normal. That sort of thing. Find ways to work around all of it. If you aren't too demanding, things will fall into place. You aren't a movie director, don't tell her how to make her every move. That will only put too much pressure on her. If you were put under that much pressure you wouldn't be able to perform. So won't be able to either. Keep a clear and realistic mind when it comes to acting out your favorite sex scenes. This will help you get the most bang for your porno buck. It will keep you a satisfied customer again and again.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Tips to Better Sex

Most men are always looking for new ways to pleasure their woman in bed. I know that I am always looking for new things to do to my special someone. Here we give you 15 great tips on how to improve your sex life. Now you may be wondering who the hell I am? Well I am from the United Kingdom and I am a self confessed love rat. I have bedded over 120 girls at the last count. I am NOT the best looker in the world, in fact you will see some of my pictures dotted around this site. Having great sex is all about what you know, so get a pencil and paper, you won't want to miss these, all these tips are from my personal experiences.

1. Always bring protection. You should never ever be in a position where you don't have a condom. You should always have some on hand. If you don't, you might miss that chance to have sex.
2. Being too aggressive. We don't want you to zero on their clitoris like you are a laser guided missile. Instead, focus on turning her on. This will do more than running straight for the canal du stinky.
3. Being too relaxed. Women want a little spunk in their guy. They want to know that you are turning them on. Be brisk, but yet not too aggressive. You don't want to be so aggressive that you scare her away. If when you see her naked, it makes you feel like you haven't ate in weeks, go take a cold shower and return to the bedroom.
4. Touching too softly. A woman won't break if you touch her. If you touch her too softly she won't feel anything. Don't beat her, but use common sense. If she moans, it feels good, if she kicks you in the nuts, you are hurting her.
5. Don't have rough fingernails. You should keep your nails trimmed and well kept. A woman doesn't like you touching her sensensitive areas if you have rough or long fingernails. This could cause small cuts or painful sores.
6. A wondering hand. A woman likes to be felt, but there is a point that you are overdoing it. Feeling her up isn't a sport, you don't get points if you can cover the same spot more than once.
7. Only going halfway down. If you are kissing her and leading down to her belly button, don't stop. This will only frustrate her. Instead, if you aren't going to go down, then doing head down there! Focus on kissing her instead.
8. Don't just use your fingers. If you are going down on her, the whole point is to use your mouth too. Don't just use your fingers. This will keep her begging for more and she will take care of it in the bathroom.
9. No direction. There is nothing worse than having sex with someone who just stares at the ceiling. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to sit on the bench when you have worked so hard to score do you?
10. Slapping her ass. Women hate this. Unless you know for a fact this is a turn on, then don't do it. Women are so consumed with their asses and they always think that it is too fat. Also, this can bring up issues about her past if she was abused as a child.
11. Who is your daddy? Women don't want to hear this. Some women like role playing in bed, but not this. No woman wants to have sex with a man who is calling himself her father.
12. Did you have an orgasm? If you did, don't keep it a secret. Women like to know that they pleased their man. Unless they are half dead or drunk, they should be able to figure this one out on their own.
13. You ask her if she had an orgasm. Trust me, you will know if she does. No need to ask.
14. Excuses. Women don't want to hear why you can't get it up. Be honest with her, don't make some lame excuse that she will know is a lie right away.
15. She brings out her sex toy. Don't be fearful of this! There is no reason to be. Instead, enjoy watching her bring herself to an orgasm. This will be good material later on to keep in your spank bank if you happen to need it.
Sex isn't tricky. You aren't building a rocket ship. You need to understand that if you over think it, you will ruin it. Instead, just go with the flow. Don't follow these to perfection, you will appear to be a nerd. Unless of course, you just got out of your local Star Trek convention.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Head

First I will say this, I know there are a lot of women out there who don't like giving or receiving oral sex. I understand that you may think that it is dirty or like in an Asian country some women have stopped as they think it is an evil sin. I will have to find out where this article is and perhaps publish the web address in my next column. Why am I writing about giving your man a blowjob in my column you may ask, well I believe that if you please your man like he tries to please you, then to please him will please you too. When giving a blowjob, giving head or going down on your man, did you know that this form of sexual gratification too could turn you on? Hot Blow Job...
How do you give the perfect blowjob? Hehehehe, blowjobs, bjs hmmmmm... good topic don't you think? Giving a blowjob can be such a turn of for both parties so try it before you say you don't like it.
Once again like with the guys you both need to be comfortable with it. If you feel that it is not a clean "tool" then have a shower together. Ladies take it in your hands, grab the soap, lather it up and wash it, play with it, see how it responds to your touch.
If there is room in the shower, kneel down in front of him and look closely at it, see how clean it is, before flicking your tongue over the tip. See how clean it is... Now you know that it's clean because you helped wash it thoroughly, Close your mouth around it and feel it grow hard in your warm, moist mouth.
Take control and enjoy it as much as your partner!!
If you are being sensual and your partner tries to thrust causing you to deep throat and gag when you are not ready, grab him gently with you teeth, not tight enough to break the skin but tight enough to stop him...
Do not break the skin... if you do all the romantic desires will have gone!!!!!
Ladies use your tongue, flicking it backwards and forwards as you suck. You can do both at the same time. Trust me on that one... Now if you feel comfortable sucking him in the shower, get off your knees and head to somewhere a bit more comfortable, like the bed, continue what you were already doing but in a different position. Ok first if you have lube - like KY jelly handy grab that before getting onto the bed, flavoured is great....
Have your guy lay down on the bed, kneel between his knees, squeeze a little bit of the lube, covering both hands...
Take his penis into your hands, see how slippery and sensual it is, gently massaging the shaft with both hands, occasionally teasing the head paying particular attention to the underside of the head.
Remember that you must be gentle that is why I keep referring to that particular word.
Now ladies hold on to his cock, use your tongue flicking over the head, lick the head all over and use the flat of your tongue to cover more area, gently suck on the head, sucking it into your mouth at the same time flick your tongue back and forwards around the head. Pay particular attention to the Frenulum (the underside of the penis), as it's the most sensitive part of the glans (the head of the penis).
Tease him and please him at the same time, you can do it!
Run your hands over his inner thighs as you mouth moves on his shaft. Lower your mouth over his shaft and the trick to taking in as much as you can - to deep throat is to breath out as you are taking him in. I know this is a big ask, but concentrate on your breathing at the same time to avoid the uncontrollable urges you may get. I won't go into detail, but I am sure you know what I am talking about.
As you suck him deep into your mouth and with your hand around the lowest part of the shaft pump him gently as your mouth rides his hot swollen penis.
As a bonus for your partner with the hand that is almost free, gently massage your partner's testicles. Squeeze them, hold them, run your finger nails over them - there's that word again "gently", and at the same time sensually play with them. Now the choice is yours. If your partner is your long-term partner and you feel you would like to taste him and swallow his cum, then read on, if not skip this paragraph and go on to the next... Your partner's cock is throbbing with anticipation as your tongue works it's magic, you taste his pre-cum it's salty but nice, you wrap your hand firmly but not too tight around his cock, with your mouth sucking him deep, keep sucking as you pump him faster and faster... Keep stroking him until you feel his cock throb and suddenly he explodes sending his hot creamy cum down your throat... Look at him and lick your lips to show how much you enjoyed sucking his rod dry... For the ladies who don't like the taste, when you feel your partner's cock throbbing and you feel his hips starting to thrust against you, take your mouth of his penis and with your hand wrapped firmly around his shaft pump faster and faster. Let your partner tell you how fast and how hard to stroke him as he gets nearer and nearer to dropping his load for you.
As he ejaculates let him know that you are excited too. I love watching a guy cum so as he is crying out in pleasure, if you are enjoying it too then I am sure you will know what to do... Taking control of your partner's orgasm ultimately is a turn-on; learn how to give that special blowjob as it can ultimately be a satisfying experience for all involved.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Kink

Have you ever wanted to have sex in a kinky location? Of course, we all have. Sometimes the urge for us to have sex while in a certain area is overwhelming, while other times it is something we fantasize about. Sex can be great in different locations. Sometimes people get a thrill out of having sex in places where they could get caught. Sex can be very fun in places other than your bedroom. Here we will discuss some of those places. The car. This can get be a great place to have sex. This might be a little dangerous if you are driving, so do this while you are stationary. I'm sure that we all have got our rocks off in a car. It was probably the place most of us lost our virginity...
1. A car is a great way to get a blow job or other sex act in public. You can easily pull into a public place and let her do her work. If someone catches on or you see the cops, just say that she was looking for something on the drivers side. Keep an eye out for people who may make your time less enjoyable. If you are the type that loves sex in public this is great. Nothing feels like having an orgasm while other people are watching you.
2. Sex on a rooftop can be interesting. Nothing makes you feel more free than to be closer to the clouds and sun. Be careful if you choose to try having sex in this location. Roof tops can be very hot. If they are metal, it will be super hot. Even regular tar paper or shingles can be hot too. I would suggest that if you choose to have sex on a roof top, bring a blanket along.
3. Of course, you want to be careful if you are having sex on a rooftop. Make sure not to be anywhere near the edges. Also try to make sure the area you are having sex in is sturdy. The last thing you want is to have to have someone call the paramedics because you fell off of the roof. That would make for an interesting discussion telling them how you hurt yourself.
4. Nothing sounds like the roar of a car as it goes over a bridge. Under a bridge can be a fun place to have sex. The sound of the cars and semi trucks can make you feel powerful. Unfortunately, homeless people also hang out under bridges. If you choose to have sex in this area, make sure none of them are around. It would be embarrassing to get mugged while having sex. Also check out for broken glass, that is the last thing your woman needs to get up her ass.
5. This one is quite risky. I wouldn't attempt this unless a night in jail turns you on. Sex at public events can be great. Sometimes during a sports game or concert you can sneak in a little action. Oral sex or masturbation is easiest to perform in these situations. Unless you are certain you won't go to jail, I wouldn't suggest having sex in one of these places. Wouldn't it be embarrassing if you were getting a blow job at a football game and you seen yourself on the big screen television? Most men fantasize about having sex with the secretary. Having sex in the office can be great. This is my favorite place to have sex. I can't even begin to count how many times I have gotten laid in the office. For the most part, if you are careful you won't get caught. Make sure that if you are bagging her in the office the door is locked.
If you are lucky enough to be able to bag a lot of women at work, this can make the work day a blast. This is why I like doing this. The work day is so much fun when you can bang your coworkers. If you can get away with this, I highly suggest it.
If you work in an office with cubicles this can be good. Be warned, it can be easy for your neighbor to hear if you are breathing heaving and so forth. Unless you have regular asthma attacks, this isn't for you. I have never got into this kind of sex. I think that the cubicles are so small, it is too hard to enjoy myself.
Most of us drive cars. It is how we get from place to place each day. Why not enjoy that car a little more and have sex on the hood of the car? This can be a great deal of fun if you are the outdoors type of guy. Make sure the car is in park if you choose to do this. You don't want to be banging the old lady while the car slides down a hill.
This is probably my second all time favorite place to have sex. It is kinky as hell and it reminds me of super man. All men like to feel like the man of steal while having sex. Sex in a phone booth can be great. It doesn't matter if it is the kind with a door or not. I would suggest that even if it has a door, keep it open. It is easy to get hot in such a small area. The only time you want to be huffing and puffing is after you are done, not in the middle of sex.
If you are into having sex in public areas, those are some of the best tips I can give. Sex in these areas will please you and your partner more than you can ever imagine. Break out the condoms and enjoy!

Kisses,

Jesse~

Licked

Being licked feels wonderful to women. There are a few women who don't find it pleasant, but most women just love it - if you do it right! The problem here is that according to women, a lot of men don't know how to give a woman pleasure through oral - so strap on your safety belts - as we tell you what women really like. An important thing to understand about women is that a lot of women are shy and kind of embarrassed about how their body looks. If the woman you're with isn't comfortable with her body, be reassuring but also dim or turn off the lights. This will help your partner to concentrate on what you're doing to her instead of worrying about how she looks to you. After a nice long foreplay session, try moving down to your lover's inner thighs. This is one of a woman's most sensitive and erotic spots, although it is also one of the ones she worries the most about, appearance wise. Try gently kissing her inner thighs, and licking them with a dry, pointed tongue. Light nibbles are good, too. A few women are too ticklish to enjoy this. Don't force the issue or she'll be a nervous wreck instead of passionate. When you first move to your partner's vagina, do not do anything sudden. Try licking gently up and down her lips, not opening them, just licking them and maybe a very gentle nibble. After a couple minutes, you can suck on them but never be rough or suck too hard. Don't go further yet unless she urges you to or until you start hearing her breathing change or little moaning sounds. Now you move on to the hood of skin covering her clitoris. That is the little nub of flesh to the front her her vagina. If a woman is excited, her clitoris will be hard. If she is not totally excited, it will be soft and very small. If it is not totally hard, or you are not sure, suck gently on the hood over her clit, not yet touching the clit itself. You can use a finger from one hand to stroke her vaginal lips. If you feel moisture on them, you can very gently insert just the very tip of your finger between her lips as you suck over her clit. After a little while - and don't rush - gently push back the skin so that the clitoris is exposed. Be very gentle with it - there are a lot of nerve endings in this piece of flesh. Gently suck it - VERY gently. Alternate sucking with soft licking with the tip of your tongue.
Now here are a few things you can try in any random order you like and as she likes:
Try licking her clit in fast little circles
Insert your finger into her canal
Try licking in figure eight motions
Use both hands to hold her legs apart
Move the finger inside her like you were stirring a very small cup of coffee
Put a second finger inside of her and spread the two fingers gently apart, then together over and over
Lick her clit in a short, fast up and down motion
Push her legs into the air and hold them there
You can try other things, too. Make sure to pay attention, because at some point, your partner will become more excited. She may grab your head or start pulling your hair. If she pulls your head toward her, try not to change what you are doing with your tongue any more. A lot of men think that when a woman reaches her peak of excitement just before she climaxes that this would be a great time to add variety. Don't. This is a great time to keep doing exactly what turned her on the most. Something to note here is that if a man starts to orgasm and the physical stimulation that got him there is removed, he will probably continue his orgasm. This is not the case for women. If you stop licking her before she is done, her orgasm will stop in the middle, and she will be very, very frustrated. Never use teeth on a woman unless it is gentle enough not to hurt. Use a gentle touch always, unless requested otherwise. Be sure to pay attention so you'll know which things you did that she liked the best. A man that gives great oral sex to a woman can bring her her greatest sexual pleasure.

Kisses,

Jesse~

The Next Morning

You are awake, but you haven't opened your eyes yet. You don't remember much about last night, but you feel hung over. You reach over for a cigarette and barely open your eyes long enough to see where they are. You take a long deep puff and your eyes begin to open. All you know is that you feel like total shit. You take a few puffs off of your cigarette and put it in the ashtray. You lay in bed trying to remember what the hell happened last night. You vaguely remember going out with the buddies and doing ten shots of whiskey and pouring beers down your throat all night long.

Your brain starts to recognize that you are awake and need to start the day. You take a few more puffs off of your cigarette and you realize there is something moving next to you. Holy shit! There is a nude stranger next to you with your blankets wrapped around her. She is starting to wake up after she smells the scent of your cigarette smoke.
What do to? You don't want to act like you don't remember having sex with her, even though you don't. You don't know this woman from a box of rocks. Don't panic, keep your cool.
She might not remember anything from last night. Be gentle with her and talk in a soft voice, she might be hung over too. Run your fingers through her hair and act happy. If she sees that you are happy, she might think you enjoyed the sex.
After she is awake try to make small talk. Ask her what she would like for breakfast and that sort of thing. Tell her how beautiful her eyes look in the morning. Tell her they are full of life and they sparkle like the stars at night.
If she brings up the sex from last night, tell her that it was good. Don't go telling her a wild story that isn't true, because she might remember what happened. Tell her that you can't believe how beautiful she was and how much you enjoyed her company.
This can be an important time. If she already put out, she might put out again. If you aren't too hung over, test out the waters and see if she would like to have sex again. Run your fingers through her hair and tell her she has a nice smile. You can also try giving her a massage. If she starts to get relaxed try brushing your hand against her breasts. Then go in a little more and try touching her breasts. If she acts uncomfortable, stop doing it.
If on the other hand, she seems open to the idea of you touching her breasts, continue. Start up with foreplay like you normally would. Hey, what do you have to loose? You might be able to double your pleasure.
During this time you can hint around to asking her what her name is. Tell her that it slips your tongue while you lick her nipples. Try to make it funny if you can. Humor is a great way to break the ice.
After you do a little foreplay pull away your blankets and let her get a good glimpse of your penis. Watch how she reacts. If she seems to be interested, there is your green light. All you need to do is allow things to happen. I would also during this point allow her to touch you. Do this to make sure that she really does want to have sex with you. The last thing you want to do is end up raping a woman. She might feel scared because she is having a stranger do something to her. Always play on the safe side. If you can't get any sex, then I would try to make the transition from getting out of bed to her leaving as smooth as possible. Ask her if she wants anything to eat or a cup of coffee. Don't rush her out of the house, this will take away any chance you have of getting laid by her again a second time. Most of the time though, there won't be a second time. But, you always need to be playing one step ahead. Tell her that you will leave the room while she gets dressed if she feels uncomfortable. This will help speed things up if she does. Tell her that she can take a shower or freshen up if she would like.
Don't pretend that now you are a married couple. Don't ask her to make you breakfast and break wind in bed and laugh. Chances are she was either really drunk last night too, or she was really horny.
This can be a uneasy situation. If you find yourself in this type of situation keep these things in mind. It will help you make it more easy.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sexual Fetishes

Some people are open about their fetishes while others aren't. I think that some people are afraid of them because they think they are weird. No fetish is weird, unless it is having sex with a dead body. Fetishes are normal and we all have them. They are what make sex interesting and fun. A fetish is when we need something special to turn us on. That special thought we think while we are masturbating. It is what makes us really horny, verses just horny. There are many fetishes out there. Unfortunately, the media only usually covers a few. For example, latex or rubber. It hardly does any justice. Some fetishes will contain actual items, such as high heels... Some fetishes will be about acts, like acting like an animal while having sex. Some fetishes might contain both actual items and acting, like wearing a diaper and acting like a baby.
Some men have fetishes and don't even know it. Are you a breast lover? That is a fetish. Do you like a woman in pantyhose? That too is a fetish. Don't run from them, they are what turn you on.
Here is a list of the top ten fetishes. Check the list if any of these are your fetishes. Hell, you might even find something you didn't know you liked.
1. Stomachs: Both men and woman like to flaunt their flat stomachs. Nothing is more hot than a woman who is fit. Personally, this drives me wild. I love to see a flat stomach on a woman,
2. Piercings: This is something that is popular with the younger people. They pierce everything than can. They don't stop at the ears like a normal person does. They may pierce their tongue, their eye brows, their face, or anything they can. I have seen men and women with their nipples pierced! I have heard people of going to the extreme and piercing their genitals. Wow, that must hurt like hell.
3. Latex, leather, rubber: A lot of men love to look at women wearing very tight material. I think this is because it doesn't make one have to imagine what the person looks like underneath their clothes. Nothing looks better than a nice pair of breasts under a latex shirt.
4. Domination: I have never understood this one. I have tried to get into this, but it isn't my thing. Some men like to be told what to do. This may also involve whips, hand cuffs, or chains. I don't know what is a turn on about this, but it seems popular.
5. Feet: This is a popular fetish. I once talked to an escort (classy name for whore) who said that this was very popular with her clients. Some men like to adorn a woman's feet, while others like to lick them. I have heard of one man who had a fake wedding for their feet and actually threw rice on them and such. To each their own I guess.
6. Lipstick/fingernails: This is a fetish of mine. I love to see a woman wearing thick red lipstick. All I can think about is the ring that it would leave around my penis if she were to give me oral sex. This is one of the things that make a woman look like a woman. This is what from separates men from women. We don't wear lipstick, well, at least most of us don't.
7. Hair: This isn't as weird as it may seem. We all like to see a woman who keeps her hair neat and clean. Some men really get off on this though. Some guys like a woman who has a pony tail or has braids in her hair.
8. Water: Every man dreams of that woman who sticks her head up from the pool and is very good looking. I think we like water because people tend to wear little or nothing in water. Nothing looks better on a woman than a wet t-shirt or a wet bathing suit fit snuggly on her breasts.
9. Golden showers: This is a strange one. This is one of my all time favorites. This is where you urinate on your partner, or they urinate on you. I think this is a great turn on. Sometimes it has to do with domination. There is no signal stronger than pissing on someone. This is the most fun out of all the fetishes. Make sure you try this one out!
10. Voyeurism: This is the most popular fetish. People love to watch and be watched having sex. This is one of the reasons why porn is so popular. We love to watch someone have sex. I have seen a lot of people who have sex and put movies and pictures of it on the net.
That is a short list of fetishes. Some are innocent and some are on the wild side. We all have things that turn us on. Don't be afraid of them, enjoy them. They will help make your sex life better.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Female Orgasm

You have an orgasm when you are having sex. Why shouldn't your partner? We will help show you how you can tell if your partner is having an orgasm. Never be fooled again by a woman faking an orgasm. The female body is more complex than the male body. We can achieve orgasm fairly quickly and easily. This isn't the case for a woman, but if you know how to do it, you can. I have seen women have orgasms in a very short period of time. The shortest amount of time I have seen has been about two or three minutes. You can tell if your partner is having an orgasm. Not all women are the same. Sometimes they will shake, moan, yell, or in the extreme, pull out their own hair. A small percentage of women will ejaculate. Don't confuse the fluid for urine, because it isn't urine.
Nipples can be a way for you to tell if she is having an orgasm. If they become hard, then she might be having an orgasm. This isn't really a good method. They could be hard for a number of reasons. It could be cold in the room or she might be aroused. Some women's nipples are always hard.
Do you feel her vaginal muscles contract? If so, then she could be having an orgasm. Her vaginal muscles also might be contracting if she is about to orgasm. If you are masturbating her, but your hand on your stomach. You should be able to feel her muscles contract. In most women I have been with, I have noticed that the more fierce the muscles contract, the more pleasurable the orgasm is.
Moaning; The truth vs. fiction.
We all know that some women fake moaning during sex. This can be so that she doesn't make her partner feel let down. We have all seen this before. She moans and groans like she is staring in a low budget porn flick. Personally, I find this to be very irritating. After about a minute of it, you can easily tell it is faked.
Some women are more vocal during sex. They moan and groan out of pleasure. If you are lucky enough to have one of these women, enjoy it. I like most men, enjoy hearing when a woman is being pleased. Look at it as a good thing.
If she starts grasping at things, screams, or tells you to go faster... Listen to her. She is telling you what you need to do to make her orgasm. Don't think of this as her telling you what to do in bed. We all want pleased, if you listen to what she likes in bed, chances are she won't have to tell you again and again.
Of course, this can mean that she is faking. We have all seen it in the movies. They pull on things, scratch their nails down your back, and scream out everything including the name of the dog. If you know for certain she is faking it, keep on going. Don't let her know that you know. I mean, after all, you are getting laid.
If you are the type that has a lot of one night stands, then chances are you don't know how to please a woman. To learn how to please a woman, you need to have experience with that woman. If you don't, you will be like a fish flopping on top of a woman. Sorry guys, but this is true.
There are many advantages to having the same sex partner. The biggest one is that you don't have to worry as much about disease. Having multiple sex partners, is very risky. Always make sure you use a condom if you engage in this type of sexual behavior.
Keeping the same sexual partner has its benefits. One of them is that you will be able to understand her sexual needs. Every woman is different. Some women's sexual needs are very different. If you think all women are the same, you will not perform at your peak.
Try finding a woman that you can have a long term relationship with. You will find the sex will be better for the both of you. You will learn how to please each other and sex will be better.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Casual Sex

Finding women who enjoy casual sex is like finding a gold mine. Everyone enjoys having a sex partner without any strings attached. It is like finding a hundred dollar bill on the side of the street. Nothing can get better than this. You dream about being able to do this, but you never get to. You have lost all hope haven't you? Don't loose hope. In this article, we will teach you how to find those partners for causal sex. If you are lucky enough to bag her, don't talk about getting married afterwards. Act like the sex was good, but don't go over board. Women do this when they play hard to get. Don't show too much interest in her. Act like you enjoyed the sex and her company, but don't fall head over heels for her. At least if you have, don't let her know about it. Don't buy her anything. I mean never ever buy her anything. If she has sex with you and you bring over a bunch of roses, she will think you want more than just sex. Don't get fooled into this! Be nice, but when it comes to spending money, no dice!
What ever you do, don't fall into traps. If she starts crying because she wants a relationship or because she thinks all you want is sex, run fast away from her. She is saying these things to trap you into a relationship. Of course you don't want that, all you want is the sex. You need to get those rocks off. If she pulls out the traps, be smart and don't get caught in them. The problem with having causal sex is, that sex can loose its meaning. You are so happy to be getting laid, that there isn't any love in it. I know that sounds mushy, but even men enjoy love. Consider the emotional effects this may have on you before you go crazy and have sex with tons of women.
Keep on the look out for new casual sex partners that you can engage in great sex with. This will give you a great amount of choices when you decide that you are horny that day. We all can use more choices, can't we? Having these babes that you can bag at will is great. If you get turned down by that hot babe at the bar, you can always call up one of your casual sex buddies. This is a great way to make the anger of getting rejected less painful.
One of the things that you need to understand that when you have casual sex, many problems can happen. You can get STDs. If you engage in this type of sex, then you should be very careful. Always and I mean always wear a condom. Make sure that you get checked by the doctor often. It isn't right to spread disease around to people. You wouldn't like that happening to you. So please, watch your step.
Another thing to keep in mind is that sex can result in babies. Hold the damn phone, it can cause babies? Of course it can. If you are going to have casual sex, then you should be prepared to have kids. Condoms break, shit happens, and all that jazz. With sex, comes the chance of pregnancy. If you keep the things above in mind, you will be great with your casual sex partner. If you do it right, it can be a lot of fun. Always make sure to protect yourself at all costs. No pussy in the world is worth dying for.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Bound For Pleasure

More people fantasize about bondage in one form or another than you might imagine. Many of these couples try bondage at one time or another to spice up their sex lives. However, there are some people who, despite their fantasies, never experience bondage. More than likely this is either because they are unfamiliar with how to perform bondage properly, or because they are unsure how their partner would react to their desire to try bondage. Because of this, the purpose of this article will be to briefly explain the basics of bondage, suggest other fetishes that may add more pleasure to your experience, and explain ways you and your partner might attempt to have bondage sex.
There are many ways bondage may be performed. One example might be you or your partner bound at the wrists with rope or handcuffs, or your partner's wrists may be tied to the bed posts. Some go further than that and tie up the feet as well. There are so many different ways to perform bondage that the variations, or combinations rather, are virtually endless. Bondage may be as simple or as complex as you wish it to be. The art of Japanese rope bondage, for example, takes a lot of skill and patience. Lets start with a simple lesson. First you and your partner should discuss which of you is to be bound. Once that decision is made you should discuss what you or your partner will be bound with and how tight. Other topics you may wish to discuss before you begin might include whether or not you will add other fetishes or a blindfold during the bondage session. For example purposes we'll say your partner is the one that wishes to be bound with rope. Once you are ready to begin your bondage session, allow your partner to assume the position they would like to be bound in. Take the rope and wrap it around one of their wrists completely, then extend the rope to the other wrist and do the same. From there, you may proceed to wrap the rope around both wrists, pulling them together as tightly as you and your partner have discussed is appropriate. Once the desired tightness is reached, tie the rope together in a knot. If there is any excess rope, you may either tie it to something (like the headboard of a bed) or simply let it hang loose. There are endless ways to tie your partner up, this is just one example of how to do so. Congratulations, you've just done simple bondage!
Once you and your partner have discovered how either of you enjoy being bound, you might like to add other fetishes to your bondage sessions. Of course there are a large variety of fetishes you could add, however, we will only be going over a few of them here.
Gagging is quite popular among those who enjoy bondage, as is the blind fold. Another thing that usually goes hand in hand with bondage is the fetish of spanking or whipping. Whipping may be done with a variety of different whips, such as the cat o nine tail, the riding whip, or the feathered racing bat. If you and your partner decide to engage in whipping during your bondage session then it is important that you remember to discuss how hard to whip just as you discussed how tight to be bound. Of course if you or your partner (who ever is being whipped) decides they want to be whipped harder or softer after you begin you can always adjust to cater to that desire. Using a variation of soft strokes and harder whips can produce a highly erotic sensation. There are many different types of whips out there that give off different sensations. So if you try one and don't like it, experiment with others. You may find one that pushes all the right buttons.
Another thing you and your partner can do during your bondage session is blind fold the one that is bound, then proceed to stroke their body with objects and/or food products. The objects used can be just about anything. You can either discuss what objects will be used with your partner, or if you and your partner feel like being adventurous the one that will be bound can be unaware of what objects will be used. To tease the senses, objects should be a mixture of hard and soft surfaces such as feathers, polished stones, the tip of a cat o nine tail, chains, and so on...Foods can also add a delightful touch to this sort of play. I would suggest using foods such as ice, whipcream, chocolate syrup, pudding, fruit, cucumbers, etc... Take time to play with each of the items you select, but don't over do it.
Be creative, but also keep safety in mind. In other words be careful that the objects you choose won't harm you or your partner. Something else you may wish to consider is whether or not your partner may be allergic to any of the objects you plan to use. If your partner has decided they do not wish to know what objects you plan to use, you can still abide by their decision to do so while making sure you don't use anything that might not agree with them. Simply ask them if there is anything they are allergic to ahead of time. That way you can maintain the element of surprise while making sure what you are doing will be safe for them.
You've gotten a small taste of how bondage can add a little flavor to your sex life. Learning different knot techniques as well as adding various fetishes can increase the enjoyment of you and your partner's experiences. Remember to always keep the lines of communication with your partner open. If there are things you would like to try during your bondage session don't be afraid to discuss them with your partner. Likewise, if there are things you don't want to experience discuss them with your partner as well. It's always important to be honest and discuss your feelings. This will ensure that bondage and what goes on while you're doing bondage will be enjoyable for both of you.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Pharmaceutical Help For Your Sex Life

Segments of the pharmaceutical industry have currently been dedicating to research substances capable of interfering with libido and sex drive aimed to benefit those with dysfunctional desire as well as sustaining male erectile potency.
In 1998, after several researches Viagra was launched out in the market, which revolutionized the treatment of erectile disturbances. Interestingly, the chemical compound Sildenafil was being tested as antihypertensive drug during phases of researches without plausible results. It was then observed a rather interesting collateral effect on a large number of men using it. It was reported that during treatment men showed sustainable erection as consequence of the medication, of which, since then has begun to be researched as oral medication capable of promoting adequate erection in men with erectile dysfunction.
Pharmacopoeia have ever since been developed on that ground, for drugs up to which point were injectables (Papaverine and Prostaglandin), all of which were being administrated directly on the penis' cavernous body and thus promoting instantaneous erection with undesirable side effects such as priaprism (painful lasting erection).
Shortly after Viagra came along others such as Levitra (Valdenafil) and Cialis (Tadalafila), both displaying similar characteristics. As opposed to injectables that produce almost instantaneous erection without sexual desire, oral drugs compulsorily require sexual arousal to come into effect.
Another important effect observed in such medications is decreased refracting period, that is, the period between the organism's resolution up to the threshold of a new sexual incursion.
Recent researches have sought answers in our hormonal make over. It's known that testosterone is one of the most potent androgenic as far as sexual desire in men and women concerns, and a drop in its level leads to progressively lack of sexual desire. All that would explain further the decrease in libido after the fifth or sixth decade of life for both genders. There isn't a consensus among specialists over which dose would be ideal for testosterone replacement in women, much less on long term collateral effects.
It's known that hair growth, high levels of cholesterol and the likelihood of certain types of cancer might be associated to testosterone usage in women.
Another researched drug with encouraging results mainly in regards to the increase of libido in women is Chlorinate of Bupropione an antidepressant that acts by blocking the re-uptake of norepinephrine and thus increasing concentrations of noradrenaline and dopamine, being responsible for the feel good factor and sexual gratification.
Studies indicate an increase in desire and sexual arousal in women with desire deficiency and healthy love relationships after using Bupropione.
In brief, a new experimental drug named PT-141, a.k.a. lust spray, that promises to revolutionize dysfunctional libido. In contrast to the other drugs available that act peripherally, PT-141 acts on a central level, in a region of the hypothalamus, from which responses of sexual stimuli originate.
If those researches confirm its safety and efficacy, soon there might be available such a substance capable of sexually arousing any one almost immediately with a single nasal spray.
Meanwhile, since such a wonder isn't up for grabs as yet, let's make up for it with the pharmacopoeia currently used, bearing in mind that only health professionals can safely guide on and adequately prescribe medications within safety limits.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Energetic Sex

It’s said that any society curbing sexual expression of its own kind, would channel up such sexual energy into other escape routes, which might wind up by benefiting the society, economically.
Arguably whenever society gets to establish patterns on sexual behaviour does render sex even more pleasurable, as a result of the overcome opposition. Could it all be suitable?
None of the above would suffice. Otherwise, there would underpin improper and neurotic by the sexual motto of society.
There’s no evidence as such to showcase that a plentiful sexual life could’ve watered down a society. Better yet, there’s none whatsoever that members of societies more ascertain whether sexually or technologically, would derive less pleasure from sexual intercourse.
All the way around, hints would tell us exactly otherwise, given that those members from those more sexually carefree societies, taken lesser sexual burden on board.
Notwithstanding, people deserve being made aware of hardcore and flirting behavioral, as well as any “peculiar” sexuality. Extreme stress upon sexual issues- whether done by heighten or inculcation - should be discontinued and replaced by more leveled reasoning concerned sex.
In spite of this point resembled highly debatable, in the ideal world, its goal should be of educating children towards adulthood, of loving and making love by the natural ways, free from strings attached, shame or hiccups.
Sexual experiences within teenage must have acceptance, although those engaging in experience sprees still eligible to insight on the likelihood of odds and ends. Meaning, approaches as such present the way forward in self-acknowledgement not just so sex, but also towards the opposite sex and how to relate with them.
Masturbation then would be viewed as normal procedure, so much for the point of being encouraged perhaps, because blunt bashing, apart from sparking problems of psychological order, may lead into sexual rapport before maturity as a sort of fending oneself from the “sin” and/or “naughtiness” of masturbation.
The parenthood role into the childhood and teenage sexuality, rather kept at bay, and so too the parents act should be voided of sexual connotations.
Unisexual stances by the society must be curbed in order to prevent the average from becoming secluded down to some infantile level of sexually - that usually happens whenever clampdown rubs off on sexual, erotica and pornography plethora, as allegedly under the fabric of vulgarity.
Much as in antiquity, the human body so genitalia should come out fairly exposed and viewed as usual and casual as ever.
Both men and women would become bore of bliss and delight for one another. Anything other than that would be hostile to the male and female altogether.
Any given deadlock on to sexual matters could jeopardize the society itself, given its wellbeing core on healthy sexual procedures.
Moreover, those societies which thrive on sexual bashing might as well undermine chasms of loving and making love by ilk, conversely, bound to become more prone to grief.

Kisses,

Jesse~

The Language of the Body

Body language may be defined as a set of signs that we unconsciously send to people around us, revealing the way we are feeling about our surroundings on the whole. Body language is very important for sex and sexual life. Those signs are unperceptive to most people, but by simply paying attention to gestures, smiles, and the way people behave in general, we may get some good clues about the impression we're causing on a specific person. on the other hand, with such knowledge we're able to shape (or at least influence) the impression of a person about ourselves, sending very subtle messages telling what we want people to think about us.
When it comes to flirting and dating, we may use this information to know if a person have a real interest in us beforehand and then assess if we should change our approach. Both men and women tend to use four main attitudes when sexually interested in someone: eye contact, light touching, smiling and leaning forward. By observing these simple signs you may discover if that person is really into you, since even she's the shyest of persons, she will unconsciously demonstrate something.
Eye contact is essential. Keep your gaze on your partner when he's talking to you, and don't break the contact until he finishes. Researches proved that a constant, fixed eye contact showing interest in what the person is saying may activate some biological reactions in our body. Such reactions act upon our hormones and we may end up feeling attracted too. Touching has even a bigger influence in our sexual response. Our body responds immediately to the touch of another person during the middle of a conversation, even if it happens for less than a second. Women tend to touch a man in their hands, arms and chest to show their appreciation, while men usually focus on shoulders, knees and particularly in the woman's hair.
If a person leans forward while you're speaking, stays on more open, erect posture, with big gestures, smiling a lot and showing the palms of the hands while speaking, she's giving you more important signs of attraction. When both people are attracted, the signs start to be more frequent and the interest more evident, the so-called "chemistry". On the other hand, if a person keeps looking around avoiding to look directly at you, keeping her arms crossed on chest, biting nails and giving evasive answers, it means that whether your date is very nervous and anxious or he's really not attracted to you.
Tricks of the trade for men: when it comes to flirting, women sometimes use their hair as an important weapon. A woman who keeps staring at you smiling and touching her own hair while you talk with her is clearly just waiting for you to move. If she gently bites or licks her own lips while you talk, or if she shows her own tongue while she's talking, that's a very good sign as well. She will also find some subtle ways to bring your attention to her breasts and neck, with some gesture or posture.
Tricks of the trade for women: basically, men change their behavior when the object of their interest is around. They will also stare at you a lot, but guys in general tend to look the other way when you respond. Poking you or touching you in a play way is a good sign too, but if a guy finds a way to play with you hair, bang! He's all yours. The tone of his voice changes when talking to you. He may say something to a friend and in the next moment he says the exact same thing to you, but in a complete special manner. When looking at you, his eyes seem to trace a circle around your face, and then land in your eyes. If he looks into your eyes and then moves to watch your lips while you speak, it's also dead case.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Seducing a Partner

Mysterious is the ways that lead to the understanding of the feminine mind. As intricate as it may seem, the feminine mind continues to be an indecipherable enigma for men. Men hardly know what goes on in their own minds and in that how to get to the women’s heart in order to seduce them? If you’re a man and you’re interested, keep up with the following uncertainties, since for men, women’s minds are nothing but uncertainties.
To seduce a woman is not such an easy task. Flowers, a good restaurant, trying to impress her (what a mind job!), everything goes in the attempt to get to her heart.
Women work differently in comparison to men. Women’s minds have tortuous ways and to get to them as to have a close relationship demands cleverness. So, there goes a tip: men’s sexual urge is generally a reason for women’s disappointment. Like the animals, men and women have a love ritual to run before the consummation of the affair, which is praised by women. Until this consummation, which is generally decided by the women, men run around them like a dog without a bone, pleasing them in every possible manner until the so expected “yes”. No matter how things have changed since the sexual Revolution of the 60’s, women will always enjoy being pleased by men. Women are sensible and delicate individuals, so they expect a little bit of these same attributes from the men who are trying to seduce them. Therefore, in order to achieve their goal, men ought to play the game of seduction by women’s rules. Being objective, going straight to the point - in the sense, for example, to satiate sexual urges -, here, on this matter of seducing, has nothing to do with pleasing them. That’s why no hurry is suggested.
Beauty and brightness - Conversely to the men, women don’t give this too much importance to the beauty. Of course they feel attracted by handsome guys, but such a quality if not accompanied with intellectual attributes, is worthless. Ok, if you are an Adonis your beauty speaks for itself and you should not be reading this, but if you’re not... It is much more relevant for women that men show sensibility, intelligence, sense of humor than the way they look. Again, if the man happens to add these two qualities (beauty and brightness), ok, better for him, otherwise this should not be a reason for too much concern. It is not a general rule, but intelligence, sense of humor or sensibility (perhaps all of which together) may bring balance to the equation of those who lack beauty. An ugly but smart man may perfectly achieve his goal to seduce a woman. Furthermore, beauty is a subjective matter that varies from person to person.
Humor - Women like men who make them laugh. Men who have this ability denote intelligence. The man doesn’t exactly need to be a clown (this would repel them instead), but extracting a smile from their faces indicates progress in the intent of getting their attention and sympathy. A good round of laughs and sincere smiles sets the mood towards a relaxed atmosphere, which opens way for intimacy. That’s when the drinks come in. Alcohol (in a measured manner) turns laughs easier to come out. All this combined with the proper sense of humor may be an explosive invitational combination for the woman to become receptive.
Mutual seduction - And by the way, in a personal interrelation, who seduces who? It is possible that while the man assumes he is the one, who is seducing the woman, in fact it is her, who has already irreparably seduced him. If you’re trying to seduce a woman, isn’t it possible that it is so because you have already been hooked like a fish? And if she has already deliberately seduced you, wouldn’t it be the case to ask if the one who’s seduced you did this because you also have already seduced her without even notice it? Assumptions to make.
Whatever the ways to seduce a woman, the important thing is to never let the opportunity of seducing someone go wasted. Depending on the woman, the regret could be immeasurable. And so could be the reward for having tried at least.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Engaging Sex

The capacity to rapport sexually with the opposite sex and love someone of this sex, develops in different stages of adolescence. In puberty, or shortly thereafter, interest for sex increases at fast rate, likewise masturbation increasingly incidence.
Despite being usually afraid, most people, of both sexes, commence to have experiences with the opposite sex already in adolescence. Progress tends to be slow for their vast majority and it’s reached alongside various partners. Thus, a girl may kiss a thirteen-year-old boy for the first time and afterwards, gradually, gear into motion up until reaching a full-blown sexual relationship around the age of eighteen or nineteen.
In the case of boys that is highly variable. For the boys, in this phase mostly, any person willing and available serves. Their best interests being towards sex itself other than relationship, whereas romantic aspects of sex attract girls. Obviously, such conditions are predispositions culturally instilled.
Although our apprentice in lovemaking begins practically at birth, the capacity to love someone of the opposite sex blossoms later on. It is when the sentiment of loving someone spellbinds, who is sexually preferred by others as well. Such sentiment only emerges at the end of adolescence or shortly thereafter. Choices made before this time frame, no matter how the two of them believe to be in love, are bound to be non-everlasting.
Certain people never come to develop the capacity for loving someone thoroughly; others however are incapable of considering the loved one as a potential sex partner as well.
Therefore, much as the development of sexual capability as the capacity for loving may not work out in the first place. Nevertheless, when everything works out, the possibility to express both aspects to someone of the opposite sex becomes plausible.
When that happens, the individual is in love only for the sake of it, neither carries on having sexual relations simply because that is such a relief for one’s sexual urges. The very core of choice making grounded on personality traits and the capacity to understanding and communicating with the partner.
There is further probability of striking balance in sexual relationship in cases that personalities and cultural background being similar. So, for most people, foundations for a balanced act between a man and a woman lie in friendship. So then, they will stand a chance to express their feelings in lovemaking and therefore accept it, as well as in relationship sexually orientated.
Once men and women, in manners probably innate, possess complementary virtues and not conflicting, they can cooperate if well thought after, given mutual support to each other. However possible it may seems to disagree with this standpoint, seemingly that such is ideal a context in order to a man and a woman seize the opportunity to express themselves, reaching mutual satisfaction, and certain meaningful to life. That, for the vast majority, too, includes upbringing and education of kids.

Kisses,

Jesse~

More Sex Fantasies

Someone should have already asked what your sexual fantasy is. And you? Answered coolly, or blushed in embarrassment? Shame? That is right, after all, we are dealing with a subject that is not so exposed, and it is not the same as talking about cuisine.
But though talking about sexual fantasies; it is to talk of a world of intimacy, individuality, of our own life, what upbringing we had, education, our imagination, senses, an array of hankers, prohibitions, whereupon a melting pot of sentiments involved in.
To bear sexual fantasies is absolutely normal, to give it a go, that is, search for fulfillment of what brings on highly erotic and sensual charges to the person, it is by all means normal and even healthy. Healthy. This word deserves relevance; mostly when it comes to sexual fantasies, given the fact that existing factors might be detrimental to matters.
To have sexual fantasies and not discernment between reality and fantasy turns out to be extremely worryingly. To set off on a restless search, with no boundaries, with total disregard to the physical and mental health of your partner, becomes something of dangerous-like dimensions.
And that can happen in those cases which attempt to realize something, in case of a sexual fantasy, with no consent, of the other part involved. When someone’s fantasy is not compatible with the partner’s, there is no atmosphere, dialogue, which enables this person to feel at ease to realize it, unless by means of constrain and violence, by then, we are not talking about sexual fantasies any longer but monstrosities, otherwise.
Sexualfantasies are individual in the first place and as a result of that, should be respected and never forced on for the sake of just one partner’s satisfaction. A couple for instance, might as well have sexual fantasies in common and come to realize them together. on the same token, each might have his/her own fantasy, and that is pretty common, so long as there is intimacy, complicity and dialogue. With an open mind, searching for that so kept concealed in the back of one’s mind, it becomes choice-making rather than necessity or imposition.
However, there should not be forgotten, yet there are those fantasies, which some people prefer to push aside, kept away where our most secret and intimate thoughts lie dormant. A magic mental field spawns all fantasies, and by sheer fluke, needn’t to come into concrete plan, and its healthy to the boot.
One should know that sexual fantasy truly is solely message, which for us comes across to decrypt, to interpret.
It comes sentiment-ridden, of hankers and wishes, embedded in so many semblances. Yet what pops up in our sexual fantasies most often, it is a necessity for affection of those involved in, or even so obtaining that provided effect of the fanciful situation.
The profound aspect of sexual fantasies is that it enables the human being the freedom of experiencing new situations, the freedom of choice, whether eager to fulfill or ditch your fantasies.
Sexual fantasies to live up for, can be highly invigorating, as unique an experience as tasty. Bear with me; don’t go over board and stay within boundaries by respecting common-sense of yours and whoever plays it along willingly. Otherwise, that would not be nice at all.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sensual Anal

Anal sex, a penis entering either a female or a male anus. This penetrative sex as another mode of pleasure wield during sexual intercourse.
Nerve bundles equally to other sexual stimuli sensitive body parts serve the anus. It’s known that anal sex takes a lot of flak from sexual taboos of modern society. Some misinformed people hold anal sex as dirty and gruesome. A line of perception that too has deteriorated since the advent of the AIDS pandemic.
A sexual pleasure yielded believed to stem even from taboo mongering, whereupon the act of doing something whether wrong or naughty according to society’ is perhaps utterly exciting. As for men, given that the anus is poorly lubricated and somewhat tight, renders the idea even more exciting.
The various positions that a female figure should be at for more comfort in penetrative sex is such highly exciting factor for men as well, who reportedly feel more powerful, dominant, in sexual affairs.
However, anal sex isn’t every one’s cup of tea. People should know best what gives them sexual pleasure. There are those who would enjoy licking and touching but won’t tolerate the idea of penetrative sex.
For the sake of information, the anus is extremely stretchable and bound to endure even a fatty-penis. So much for fist fucking, a highly skilful technique supposedly gives off great pleasure. Not for the fainthearted tough, for apprentice starts with one finger and builds up from there. As known, the rectum is the final part of the digestive tract and so highly contagious, mostly bacteria. Contact with other body parts may cause serious infections. Anal sex is STD’s main door such as AIDS and Hepatitis B, thus the need for safer sex. The first anal sex experience may be followed by pain or discomfort, as much as inexperience, tension and insecurity are influencing factors. However, as time goes by, if someone enjoys anal sex will turn more relaxed as pain tends to recede turning into sexual pleasure.
Muscles relax from easygoing mind-approach, that is to say, anal sex pleasure takes self-control. Feeling at ease helps self-acknowledgement. When having shower try and shovel a finger up ever so slowly while releasing muscle tension. Keep nails short and always lubricated before inserting in anything. When a finger starts to feel kind of all right go for twos and then threes, constantly probing before moving onto serious poking. And with practice, anyone can afford a whole hand in and then some.
Sex partners should take advantage of foreplay added by loads of lubes or play the old 69 giving the anus a good lather of saliva prior penetration.
Some sexual positions enable anal sex farther, made possible by popular demand are:
She on top- ideal for the newcomer as she gets to set pace and depth of penetration.
From rear- the old in out as she kneels down exposing her hidden secrets, now there’s a catch, for each time a penis goes inside the vagina the condom has to be changed before it goes in the anus due to the threat of cross-infection. Sign of the times.
Face to face- she on her back bring knees up to chest height placing feet on his shoulders. Easy penetrative angle of sex, unsuitable for beginners.
Back view- she places a pillow mound underneath her tummy while he lies on top opening her cheeks with hands. Degree of difficulty-quite hard.
But it all comes down to personal experience, Find out yours and spread around.

Kisses,

Jesse~