Jesse's Webcam Stories: June 2008

Monday, June 30, 2008

How to Have Anal Sex

There is a large misconception that anal sex is only enjoyed by gay men. As a result, many heterosexual men who are curious or knows he desires anal play, may be depriving himself out of fear that others will think that he must really be gay or have homosexual tendencies. This type of thinking could not be further from the truth!
Millions of heterosexual women and men love to partake in anal play. By anal play, I mean rimming, having a finger up the ass while you’re getting a blowjob, inserting butt plugs, dildos, holding a vibrator around the opening, or rubbing the opening with your finger. And this area of the body should not be ignored when one is indulging. This is a very sensitive area, that when given the proper attention, can bring one to a new world of ecstasy.
Be Careful...
Now, you must be careful when partaking in such an activity, because the membranes that line the anal cavity are so very delicate. Make sure that the area is well lubricated. A special product designed for anal use (and is one of my absolute favorites) is Doc Johnson's Anal Lube.
Now, for you anal virgins, you don’t need to penetrate on the first go round. Use your fingers to massage, rub and tickle the area. The key is to start slow, be patient and try to relax. Remember this is supposed to be an enjoyable activity. Communication is absolutely essential with your partner. Let him or her know what feels good and when he or she can go further.
Once you reach a comfortable point, you may try a little penetration. If you use your fingers, please make sure that you take all safe sex precautions: finger cots, latex gloves, etc. If you know your partner well and don’t feel there’s a need, then make sure your fingernails are well groomed and free from any rough edges that may scrape or cut this delicate anal lining.
The best things to use, and the safest for the inexperienced, are the many rubber insertion devices that are made for this purpose. There are many kits for beginners. Oh, just another safety note. If you decide to use a device not specifically meant for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide end on it so that the object can’t slip into the entire cavity. (Unfortunately, it has been known to happen.) Be smart, use common sense and you’ll be okay.
I can’t stress the importance of communicating this desire with your partner. You never know, maybe your partner is just as interested as you and you’ll both be on your way to a new world of sexual encounters. And for all those who have been approached with the situation and have been turned away by it, I can guarantee it’s been out of ignorance. So many people out there believe it is taboo to partake in such an act. I hope this article has helped you in understanding what a wonderful addition anal play can be to your sex life. Remember sex is even more fun when it’s really dirty!

Kisses,

Jesse~

Internet Dating

If you're not a teenager anymore, or if it has been awhile since you have seen your twenties, thirties, or even your forties, meeting mate possibilities via the Internet has a lot to be said for it.
The biggest positive factor may be the privacy (keeping in mind that Internet communication may not be completely secure). This privacy is enormously freeing. No one sees anything that you do unless you want him or her to, so you are free to make moves that you would never dare to do in your everyday life. You can define yourself, as you want to be seen. You can highlight parts of yourself that may not be that obvious. And you are free to look. From home. In your pajamas. You can look and look and look. It's a lot like going shopping, but simpler.
As well, you can be as anonymous as you want to be, or as public as you dare. Some of the websites will route emails between interested people through the service, stripping off any identifying electronic information. The recipient of your emails will not know whom you are or how to get in touch with you directly unless YOU provide the information. But they CAN reply to your emails (with their identifying information removed) again routed through the website.
What You Know About People Who Are Listed:
1. You know they are looking. It takes time to set up a profile, and that is an investment that indicates seriousness. Signing up with an Internet dating site means that a person is actively looking for someone. They may not truly available, but they ARE looking.
2. You also know that everyone listed has at least rudimentary computer skills and access to a computer. Much can be learned about a person by how they write and how much energy they put into communicating with you. The writer's basic literacy is quickly apparent. Frequency and intensity of emails can be indicators of availability and seriousness. What people don't include can be as revealing as what they actually do chose to send.
What You Can Handle Before Meeting In Real Time:
With conventional dating, whether it is with someone you know or a new person, you are immediately faced with possible sexual pressure: Do you kiss on the first date? Do you invite him in? What will he expect or try to do? Will you be able to handle it? What do you want to do, if anything? What about the disease business? What about safe sex? How do you talk about that? What if he is a jerk? Then how do you get rid of him?
With CyberDating, most of those sensitive issues can get handled before you ever meet, if you ever do. It's all rather old fashioned, sort of like an arranged marriage, or a very formal courtship with the chaperone of distance and anonymity.
If you form an online relationship and it seems time to meet in *real time and space,* here are some tips for success:
Make sure you both agree to guidelines and firm understandings for the purpose of the meeting, how long a time you would spend together, and what might happen.
Take reasonable safety precautions: Meet in a public place where other people would be present. Tell a trusted person where you are going and why, and supply them with identifying information about the person you are meeting. Some folks even take a friend along -- never hurts to have a second opinion.
Consider a short, time limited first contact, particularly if you are not traveling a distance to meet. If seeing your email partner *in the flesh* for the first time does not meet your hopes, you'll be able to gracefully exit sooner.
Take your cell phone or borrow one. It's good for the safety element, and might come in handy -- what if your car should break down on your way to meet your date? For added security, you can have a friend call you while you are on the date. And if you want an excuse to leave, the phone call could be it.
Make your sexual limits absolutely clear: *No touching* is quite reasonable for a first, emotionally loaded meeting. If you aren't so sure about that rule, then go over any sexual conditions you might have by email, before the first meeting, while heads and other parts are a bit cooler.
So consider it! Get online and look around. Take a look at the site reviewed below, or do a search on *romance* or *matchmaking* and see what you can find. A lot of interesting, available people are doing the same thing. Someone may be looking for a mate JUST LIKE YOU!

Kisses,

Jesse~

Internet Drama and Conflict

Have you ever noticed how conflict can get blown out of proportion online? What may begin as a small difference of opinion, or misunderstanding, becomes a major issue very quickly. Conflict can be difficult at the best of times, but what is it about online communication that seems to ignite “flaming” and make conflicts more difficult to resolve?
There are a number of reasons to explain why conflict may be heightened online. One is the absence of visual and auditory cues. When we talk to someone in person, we see their facial expressions, their body language, and hear their tone of voice. Someone can say the exact same thing in a number of different ways, and that usually effects how we respond.
For example, someone could shout and shake their finger at you, or they could speak gently and with kindness. They could stand up and tower over you, or they could sit down beside you. How you feel, interpret, and respond to someone’s message often depends on how they speak to you, even when it’s a difficult message to hear.
In online communications, we have no visual or auditory cues to help us to decipher the intent, meaning, and tone of the messenger. All we have are the words on a computer screen, and how we hear those words in our head. While people who know each other have a better chance at accurately understanding each others’ meaning and intentions, even they can have arguments online that they would not have in-person.
Projections and Transference
While many people are convinced that how they read an email is the only way it can be read, the truth is, how we read a text, or view a work of art, often says more about ourselves than it does about the message or the messenger.
All of our communications, online and in real-time, are filled with projections. We perceive the world through our expectations, needs, desires, fantasies, and feelings, and we project those onto other people. For example, if we expect people to be critical of us, we perceive other people’s communication as being critical - it sounds critical to us even though it may not be. We do the same thing online; in fact we are more likely to project when we are online precisely because we don’t have the visual or auditory cues to guide us in our interpretations. How we “hear” an email or post is how we hear it in our own heads, which may or may not reflect the tone or attitude of the sender.
We usually can’t know from an email or post alone whether someone is shouting, using a criticizing tone, or speaking kindly. Unless the tone is clearly and carefully communicated by the messenger, and/or we are very skilled at understanding text and human communication, we most likely hear the voice we hear, or create in our head and react to that. This is one of the reasons why controversial or potentially conflictual issues are best dealt with by using great care and explicit expressions of our tone, meaning, and intent.
Where do projections come from? They come from our life experiences - how we’ve been treated, how important figures in our lives have behaved, how we felt growing up, how we responded and coped, etc. All of us project or transfer our feelings and views of important figures in our lives onto other people.
To take a look at your own projections or transference with people online, think back to the last time you felt angry at someone online. What was it about them or their email that made you so angry? What did you believe that they were doing to you or someone else? How did you react internally and externally? Was your reaction to this person (whether spoken or not) influenced by someone or something from your past? While it certainly happens that people are treated with disrespect and anger online, if there are any parallels between this experience and any of your past experiences, it’s likely that how you felt and responded was coloured by your past. When our past is involved, particularly when we are unaware of it happening, we invariably project and transfer old feelings onto the present situation.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Female Sexual Anatomy

You know these parts of your body are there, even if you don't know them by name. The following descriptions and the accompanying diagrams will acquaint you, part by part, with the structures that make up the male and female genitals.
The appearance of a woman's genital organs is as individual as her face or body type. However, certain basic structures are common to all women. The following parts make up the outer genitals, collectively called the vulva:
Mons pubis: The fatty mound of tissue that covers the pubic bone. Often called the "mons."
Outer lips (labia majora): The fleshy folds of skin, fat tissue, and smooth muscle that enclose the vaginal opening. Pubic hair, which may be plentiful or sparse depending on the individual, grows along the outer edges of the labia.
Inner lips (labia minora): A second set of thinner tissue folds, closer to the vaginal opening. Unlike the pubic hair–studded outer lips, the labia minora have a smooth surface and are rich in tiny blood vessels and nerve endings.
Clitoris: The most sensitive part of a woman's genital anatomy. This small mound of tissue is located at the point where the upper ends of the labia minora meet, above the vaginal opening. It's constructed from the same tissue as the head of a man's penis (the glans). A soft fold of tissue called the clitoral hood covers the pea-shaped protrusion.
Perineum: A stretch of hairless, sensitive skin that extends from the bottom of the vaginal opening back to the anus.
Unseen within a woman's body are these structures:
Vagina: A 3- to 5-inch tube of highly elastic tissue that extends from the vaginal opening to the cervix, at the base of the uterus. Just inside the entrance of the vagina is a ridge of muscles. Normally, the vaginal walls rest against one another. During childbirth, however, the vagina stretches wide enough to allow the baby to pass through. The vagina is lined with a layer of cells that secrete fluid to keep the inner surfaces moist. Blood vessels are plentiful within the vaginal walls, but most of the nerve endings are clustered in the outer third of the vagina.
Cervix: The knoblike tip of the uterus that forms the opening to the uterus from the vagina. Some women find pressure against the cervix enjoyable during intercourse.
Uterus: A muscular, fist-sized organ shaped like an upside-down pear. The primary job of the uterus is to harbor a growing fetus during pregnancy. Uterine muscles contract during orgasm, producing a pleasurable sensation.
The G-spot, or Grafenberg spot, named after the gynecologist who first identified it, is a mound of super-sensitive spongelike tissue located within the roof of the vagina, just inside the entrance. Proper stimulation of the G-spot can produce intense orgasms. Because of its difficult-to-reach location and the fact that it is most successfully stimulated manually, the G-spot is not routinely activated for most women during vaginal intercourse. While this has led some skeptics to doubt its existence, research has demonstrated that a different sort of tissue does exist in this location.
You must be sexually aroused to be able to locate your G-spot. To find it, try rubbing your finger in a beckoning motion along the roof of your vagina while you're in a squatting or sitting position, or have your partner massage the upper surface of your vagina until you notice a particularly sensitive area. Some women tend to be more sensitive and can find the spot easily, but for others it's difficult. If you can't easily locate it, you shouldn't worry.
During intercourse, many women feel that the G-spot can be most easily stimulated when the man enters from behind. For couples dealing with erection problems, play involving the G-spot can be a positive addition to lovemaking. Oral stimulation of the clitoris combined with manual stimulation of the G-spot can give a woman a highly intense orgasm.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Increase Your Bedroom Stamina in Just a Few Days!

I came across this article about sexual stamina in men and how to increase their staying power. I figured I should share this for anyone who might be interested.

How to Increase Your Bedroom Stamina in Just a Few Days!

Until recently, guys with premature ejaculation problems had to wait at least a few weeks to see results from natural solutions. However, new research has finally revealed why some guys last and others simply can?t. Based on the training principles of body building, it is now possible to teach your body how to have sex correctly through a serious of specially designed exercises.
So what is premature ejaculation, and how long is really enough?
Well premature ejaculation, or PE, is commonly defined as the inability to delay ejaculation to a point where both partners are satisfied; and this can be anywhere from 10 seconds to 10 minutes. It all depends on what you and your partner define as "too fast". Research shows that the average man will ejaculate within 1-3 minutes of penetration, while the average woman will orgasm after 12-15 minutes! With such a large gap it is no surprise that more than 30 of guys suffer from the anxiety of premature ejaculation!
So how do you stop it I hear you ask?
Fortunately, the ability to last a long time is a learned behaviour. Almost every man over fifty will tell you that he can delay ejaculation much longer today than when he was younger. Sexually inexperienced men have not yet learned to recognize the feeling of being about to come inside a woman. Recognizing and dealing with that feeling comes with experience. However, don?t be fooled into thinking that just having more sex will cure this kind of inexperience ? it won?t! It?s not the amount of sex you?ve had ? it?s the amount of learning and training. Learning to control the penis and taking charge of your own ejaculation are the keys to success.
Using traditional methods such as the "Squeeze Method", the "Masters and Johnson Method" and the "Stop Start Method" usually takes a few weeks to see results. These methods are designed for you and your partner to simply get used to sex and that is often the biggest part of early ejaculation problems anyway. Fixing Premature Ejaculation with the help of your partner only makes it even more embarrassing and awkward for you and it?s no wonder these techniques take so long to see results!
Doctors will sometimes prescribe medications that have ejaculatory retardation as a side effect. Even if those medications work (they don?t always), this doesn?t cure anything. You can?t stay on the drugs for a lifetime, and in relying on the external aid, you?ll never learn to control your orgasm for yourself. Also, most of these sprays and drugs simply numb the penis so you don?t feel the excitement. What?s the point of sex if you can?t enjoy it?
If we change our approach to having longer sex by focusing on the actual love making muscles rather than just waiting to get used to coming slower, then results can be seen inside a week. In the sporting world, different training methods are used to build the two types of muscle fibres know as ?fast twitch? and ?slow twitch?. Generally weight lifters have denser slow twitch fibres for more power, and sprinters have denser fast twitch fibres for speed. If we apply their training methods to the muscles of sex, then we are able to develop total control much faster.
Gaining control during sex is as simple as taking control over your breathing, and control over the PC muscle. The PC muscle is located between the scrotum and the anus, and contracts both quickly and slowly during sex. By training it correctly, premature ejaculation can be controlled far quicker than by simply waiting for it to happen with traditional methods.
Also, anxiety is also a major contributor to fast ejaculation, and as a result your body tenses up and can?t perform correctly. By learning correct breathing techniques you can relax your body, and coupled with the confidence of controlling your PC muscle, you can be well on your way to stopping this embarrassing problem for ever!
Outlining a full program to cure PE would take more than this article allows, however a basic program involves holding your PC for 10 seconds, then relaxing for a few seconds and repeating this cycle for 10 repetitions. You can also do short fast holds, for 20 reps each time. This will let you to begin to gain control over your PC muscle, and over time your PC worries will become a thing of the past!
Believe me, everyone is capable of lasting as long as they want to, and it has nothing to do with you thinking that you are in some way different to all the other "normal" guys. You simply need to build new habits for sex and to understand how to control the correct muscles to last as long as you should be!

Kisses,

Jesse~

It's a sad fact that, in these modern times, somewhere between 10% and 20% of adult women have never experienced an orgasm, and as much as 50% of women don't orgasm during sex. Sexual and sensual education have advanced to where we now understand much more about the female orgasm, such as the fact that women have two completely different places they can stimulate in order to bring themselves to full satisfaction. Since the vibrator was specifically created to allow women to experience orgasms, it remains the best tool for women to discover what they enjoy, and what stimulates them in the best way to achieve the ultimate O.
The first step, of course, is acquiring a vibrator. Most "adult stores" are pretty cheesy and uncomfortable for women to shop in, which is why the internet is such a popular medium for adult toy shopping. Look at the pictures, read about the materials, and choose something you find attractive and that looks fun. This is the first step on a wonderful journey, so enjoy it!
To have the best experience with your vibrator, give yourself some time with it. Before you even switch it on, get relaxed and turned on. Take a long bubble bath, read an erotic story, get yourself in the mood. For most women, orgasms are as much psychological as they are physiological. If your mind isn't in the right place, your body won't be either.
Get comfortable on your bed, on a rug in front of your fireplace, or just stay in the tub if you've purchased a waterproof vibe. Relax, start slow, and get to know your vibrator and your body. Touch different parts of your genitals with your vibrator. Discover what feels good, then keep doing it. Let your arousal build and let nature take its course.
There really isn't any "right" way to use a vibrator or to bring yourself to orgasm. The most important thing to remember is that a vibrator is a tool to help you stimulate yourself; while it can help you reach a climax, it's not an instant orgasm machine. You control it and use it in the way that feels best to you.
Experiment with your vibrator, try its different features, and apply it to different areas of your body to see what the sensations are like. Most women respond to clitoral stimulation, but you may prefer more or less intensity, or more or less direct stimulation. The labia and vulva are also sensitive.
If your vibrator is insertable, give that a try. Some women find penetration and vibration inside the vagina very pleasurable. A vibrator is the best tool you can use to find and stimulate your G-spot. This little node of pleasure is on the front wall of your vagina, a couple of inches in. It can take a few tries to find this spot, and not everyone who finds it actually likes it because of how sensitive it can be. Some women can't find it at all. All of these things are normal, so you just have to see what works for you.
Many women need clitoral rather than vaginal stimulation to actually bring them to orgasm, so if vaginal penetration with your vibrator isn't getting you anywhere, go back to using the vibrator on your clitoris. One technique you can use with a smooth insertable vibrator is to place the tip against your clitoris, then slide the shaft down between your labia, insert the vibrator and slide it into your vagina, and then bring it back up in a reverse stroke, sliding along the clitoris again on the way up.
Once you discover what feels good, keep doing it, relax, and let your arousal build. If you find that the vibrator brings you to the point of climaxing too quickly, back off and try a less intense form of stimulation, or even use your hand for a while and go back to the vibrator. You'll find that, like many things, the more you practice achieving orgasm, the easier it'll become.
Orgasm during sex is whole different thing, of course. One of the best things you can do is simply to masturbate often and keep all of your sexual organs in good shape. Masturbation helps your body to establish a habit of orgasming - if you can bring yourself to orgasm every time you get turned on, your body learns how to get there more easily when you're having sex with someone else.
Easy, practical things you can do to help your body are drinking lots of water and avoiding alcohol to keep everything downstairs healthy and lubricated. Do your Kegels - these exercises tone and tighten the muscles you use during sex, heightening the sensations you experience during sex. A set of Smartballs (an updated, silicone-coated version of Ben Wa balls) are a really easy, comfortable way to keep your PC muscles in shape.
If you are like most women, and you orgasm from clitoral stimulation, there are a hundred toys out there you can wear during sex. These vibrators are designed to stimulate your clitoris during sex. Probably the easiest to use are vibrating penis-rings, which your partner wears around his penis and has an attachment where you can insert a vibrating bullet. A nice version of this is the Clearly Sensual Vibrating Cock Ring. Another fun toy you can use during sex is a strap-on clitoral stimulator such as the Venus Butterfly or the Micro Butterfly Arouser. Elastic straps around the waist and/or thighs hold a small vibrator in place while you make love. One of the more unique toys of this nature is the Vibrating Lover's Thong, which not only vibrates on your clitoris, but has a double row of beads that stimulate your lover as he moves in and out.
Technology and research have opened up a whole new world of possibilities when it comes to female orgasms. Take advantage of what's available, and you may find yourself fulfilled in ways you never imagined possible.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Contact me	Member login	Privacy policy	Terms & Conditions

"Me and all models on this site are 18 and older"
Custodian Of Records (18 U.S.C. Section 2257)
© Copyright 2007 webcamstories.com. All Rights Reserved.

Monday, June 30, 2008

Friday, June 27, 2008

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Friday, June 20, 2008

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Sunday, June 8, 2008

Saturday, June 7, 2008

Monday, June 2, 2008

Blog Archive

Links to other webcam sites

About Me