Lesbian Nymphomaniac

I wanted to share a story I came across last night while reading my favorites sex blogs. I hope you like it as much as I did. Enjoy...

Sometimes I think I'm a true lesbian nymphomaniac. I think about sex, women, and vaginas all the time. I stare at women around me and imagine what they look like naked. I imagine what their vaginal juices taste like. I often wonder what they sound like in bed when they are having sex. I fantasize about who they have been with romantically and what it would feel like to actually be them. I totally have women and sex on the brain. At work, at home, and in public I look at women all the time. Sometimes I can't even disguise my thoughts. Today I was out shopping, and a really cute short-haired butch-chic was walking towards me down the aisle. She was so fantastic; I literally stopped walking and just stared at her. I just looked her up and down while appreciating every inch of her. The scene still plays in my mind in slow motion, as if each of her strides are taking a few minutes as her hand slowly swings at her side. I took it all in as she looked directly at me realized that I was really looking at her. I just continued to look at her and her clothes. I followed the line of the inseam of her jeans as it rose up her leg to her inner thigh and straight up to her crotch. I could make out the slight mound of her pubic bone and the swell of her labia. I imagined how the heavy inseam of her jeans would ride up into her vagina gently nudging her clitoris. I smiled as I remembered how good that feels. It made me so horny, it started driving me crazy. I became instantly hot and flush, and I could feel my clitoris harden. I turned as she walked by me so I could admire the view from the rear. Wow, she was amazing. I had to get myself off as soon as I got back to my office. I was wet and ready, and I came hard and quick. It was nothing major, but I just had to masturbate to take care of my overwhelming sex drive. That's how it feels to be me almost all the time. I am a woman with women on my brain. I'm not complaining I hope it doesn't sound like I am. I love my life. I love being a lesbian. I love the fact that looking at women makes me so horny I have to masturbate. I hope I always stay this way because it makes me feel alive. I hope that you, the reader, feel the same way. Please tickle your clit for me today. Just imagine that it's me reaching into your panties while I rub and pinch your swollen clitoris until you orgasm. Do it, and do it hard for me!

Kisses,

Jesse~

Internet Masturbation

A brave new world lies within the act of masturbation. A very world made of intimacy in that threading and emulating plots within such rich sexual tapestry. Hence, the approach on to self-indulgence is meant to be through masturbation. Rather than sex just for the sake of physical contact, intimacy and reassurance. What’s with those who log on to sex joints’ right upon seating in front of the internet screen? These folks thrive on virtual internet sex as we likewise enjoy sex in real time. Looking forward to getting hold of their fare share on stories as spiced up as riddle with sex innuendoes, wherein everything goes by striking a key on the quest for ultimate pleasure within our minds confines’. Is that so? There’s demand for pornography prone approaches for sure, alas, sex chat rooms, wherein like-minded people could mingle while masturbating. Masturbation is meant to be good and could lead into self-acknowledgement. Shouldn’t become the primary source of sexual pleasure no matter how healthy it might appear to be. Our sexuality is so intrinsic that almost everything we’d thrive can help envisaging it. Sex gets epitomized by surrender and reciprocation hence the claim for going accompanied about it Once I heard one off about some young woman who after being let down by her ex-boyfriend stumbled upon the enticing world of internet masturbation and sexual attires. She went on to saying that “Despite being all alone she could have sex on her own regularly…” one off was meant to make up for her solitude. Lonesome sex would do, there would be fare enough. Her social life was doing just fine for she was going out with her mates, aside from seemingly everything running smoothly at work. She didn’t ditch her social life all of a sudden upon choice making. Whether fad or else it wouldn’t matter then, for she was sexually fulfilled aside from leading such a well-established social life. And that is exactly what I meant by masturbation all alone shouldn’t be given an edge over personal affairs, as it would do well if kept optional rather than mainstay. If someone happens to get aloof and keeps going astray, then it would be pathological, there would get backs up. Then what leads someone into virtual sex antics, wherein internet masturbation is mainstay? Was ushered primary given that she could get herself into some affair, had sex with any of her mates, but always sought self-indulgence on the net instead. One too many complaints in the way of “My husband get can’t walk away from the pc…” seems the shape of things to come. To have sex through the screen can prove highly exiting; so much for incoming messages longed or the next plot, all of which bound to raise the spirits even higher. Thus mixed feelings of curiosity and self-indulgence. It’s what fits better in the punters’ profile for online sex.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Masturbation and Exhibitionism

From heydays, Arthur keeps the funny habit of bare his bottom, even out in the open. This behavior, first hand, seemed bemusing to his relatives who in turn used to laugh about it. As time went by, Arthur carried on, despite the constant rows with his relatives, siblings and peers. In childhood, could not care less about sexual arousal, only when someone saw his moves and tooted as outlandish. About puberty, Arthur begins to masturbate right by the opened window, in hopes that someone would spot him at it. Down the line, would get out of the house and go to a place somewhere women used to walk on by, and when one of them drew near, he’d flash his fly and commence to masturbate. Most of the time, the kick stricken out of figuring the scared face someone would pull could do to get him sexually aroused with not a single hint of mechanical framework. His goal was never sexual harassment neither consented sexual liaisons with these women, his indulgence could be summed in seeing them getting away or freaked out by what they saw. Several times, Arthur stopped by the traffic lights and masturbated there and then, just in case some woman dropped by. Kept a handful of girlfriends not aware of his concern and, since his flashing sprees are done on his own, all over the place, the family had no clue about it. Along with his girlfriends, he would not be able to drive anything out of masturbation before their eyes, once it did not put them off. Arthur never gets caught by bold behavior, but given time, grown bored out of it. Sexual healing no longer felt the same he grown used to that made him believed it would not be suitable for him as a father to be. But, once in a while, in his own time would masturbate in front of some mistress, which still turned him on quite a bit. Flashing is another kind of paraphilia and consists of bearing the genitals to some unknown person, in the attempt to scared or threaten. A flasher is often male, at least forty something and, in certain cases, gets caught at it and arrested by bold behavior. As it so happens, he gets to undergo psychotherapeutic approach, because exhibitionism is deemed disorder, before being crime. The exhibitionist is not used to have sexual relations with his victims, his indulgence lies within scaring people off, in shocking them by the sight of his sexual organ. Yet, such behavior needs recurrence over six months or so and triggered psychological backlash. Recipients of such disease waste much time in search of that person who could fulfill their sexual urge and spend a lot of time devising ways to lure such people into suiting their claims. Only but also, there could become detrimental to their sexuality as a whole, given the need to show off in order to get a hardon. For the exhibitionist, if the other enjoys the view, in other words, as of his sexual organ being flashed, there’d be no pleasure. Exhibitionism is quite rare a paraphilia, maybe underrated, given the prudence kept by the recipient throughout his moves. Some arrest is done, however seldom, since its victims seemed to run away without reporting it to the police.

Kisses,

Jesse~

SEXUAL TRAITS

The frame of mind means worlds apart for the man and woman in sexuality terms. Still persistence bridged over the gap what forwards most couples into seeking the missing link and strike balance. So many fallouts could be avoided then, petty peeves that are turned into major concerns if left unattended. There could be avoided if only the couples relied on the same patterns of communication. It’s no one’s fault, neither the woman nor the man, because both go down avenues different sexual wise. Thus, perceive and sense, react and respond, evaluate and require, as well loving through unlikely wavelengths. There could even be reasoned they might speak different languages in terms of sex. A man by nature acts out rational wise and is thought of the woman being more emotional. It doesn’t mean a thing to say that the women act upon emotional streaks, only because they are often moved by the heart. It’s supported that they’re so clever or even more so than the men themselves. By the way, it’s no use saying that they’re emotionless. A man can de driven by his emotions just like a woman generally would. What happen is that common-sense is what dictates their sexual responses most of the time. In accordance to the sate of affairs in which we’re inserted in a man will have to stand tall and for that reason must be detached from certain emotions such as breaking down in front of others. But talking about sexual terms there lies a huge gap between men and women, which takes place between walls and precedes sex itself, the input what’s. A man’s gaze means the world to turn his head upside down as driven by the looks. All it takes is looking to have him thriving on his bodily functions and fantasizing about. Just the glance of an undressing woman maybe standing on her birthday suit or putting on any sexual-aid for the hormonal rampage takeover his senses. It’s amazing, even when not thinking about sex, a quick glance or innuendo would do the trick to get him all worked up. A man is never so tired of looking. No matter how well=-escorted they might be if a woman catches their attention they will find a way to check her out, it’s downright male-orientated. Whereas the gaze is the best device to trigger a kind of sexual response in man, input for the woman comes under several guises however. If the sight is the trigger of sexual impulse as far as the man concerns, the woman claims to be touched and stroked for the process of sexual response being ignited, the sight won’t do a thing for her Alas, the sight a naked man doesn’t appeal her at all, rather charming is to see him in black trunks. Said so to underline that what turns a woman on isn’t the sight. For the men to catch a woman naked is more or less dumb struck, they can’t help themselves. A man needs constantly exploring her best attributes, her sexiness, what could be sexually plausible for her likings. Touching her sex spots at will, yet carefully, to do so by paying attention to her threshold, as bound to feel every move deeply within. On top of touch prone spots, the woman also senses good through hearing, yap baby, she gets the high pitches. To whisper reassuring words, rather warmth, would have her on board weighing the possibility of gearing up into sex, setting forth, thereby, the patterns of arousal thoroughly. The sex ridden atmosphere might work out for self-indulgence purposes. While the man, most of the time, couldn’t care less about location or timing, the woman finds herself deeply absorbed by the surroundings. A candle lit dinner, flowers, music, silk linen, his beard well-kept, as for you, a beautiful peignoir and the safety of a vaulted door(privacy). These are some features likely to psych a woman up whenever ambiance referred. A woman as highly emotional gets driven by her whims. A plain peck or careless whispers won’t do. Only if overwhelmed by reassurance, would flare her keenness on emotional matters. Time also plays key role on both sexes. A man is aimed for direct action, in his understanding, now is the time. As for the woman, the sexual rapport bound to strike nightly starts in the morning already. To the standpoint of a woman concerned sex, doesn’t start in bed takes some magic spell to be considered reasonable, as of the witchcraft, since meant for the embodiment of deliverance. In terms of bringing it on, it’s well-known that for a man, around 2 to 5 minutes would suffice. The woman in contrast would take roughly twenty minutes. Oh dear. So many discrepancies and yet so intriguing by themselves. So far so good, because the core for the balance act lies in there, the drive-force behind making very single man and woman blended together so well.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Talk

There goes a notion in the mainstream that those who are outspoken towards sex would have better performance in bed, yet enjoy sex better than those who never talk about it. Such notion is too true that the TV programs usually cast quite good-looking men and women as hosts, giving off the impression that these people would be beside themselves with lust.
Also the idea of a sexologist instills this impression in people. Those who research and write about sex and sexuality would be better off sexually in light of the knowledge achieved in their research done.
None of the above is exactly real, since talk and comprehension about sex aren’t synonym of being sexed up and keeping sexual score up to scratch.
Besides, putting on sexy attire does not dictate having all the answers in sexuality. No garment would solve problems with erection, lack of desire or else fears and insecurities pertaining to personal sexual performance. Clothing serves to spice up sex, but isn’t responsible for what one could or couldn’t do in bed.
Sexuality is learnt along the way indeed, with practical and theoretical acknowledgement, although, the theory isn’t enough to spark desire or make someone more sexually attractive. Personal background alongside the frame of mind that each one perceives his sexuality is what will grant that extra bonus on to his sexual life. Along with the sexual relation comes the other, the best half, so interaction between the couple means cornerstone for the existence of acknowledgement. Nobody is naturally gifted in bed.
If those who speak frankly about sex were really sexier, those shy-types, standoffish or well-mannered so as to not talk about the subject would not stand for good partnership in bed, and would be bound to ultimate failure in their sexual enterprise. Besides, not being openly about sex doesn’t mean that someone isn’t interested in the subject and won’t get to grips with it, much in bed as by the books and glossy magazines.
What would really make someone seem sexier or else is the way that this one perceives his sexuality, sex overall. It’s the manner how someone acknowledges his body and employs it in taking and giving pleasure. As in what he thinks of either sexual or loving affairs.
By researching the sexologist supposedly gets expertise feedback a leg in sexuality, which might clarify doubts of others, but far from meaning satisfactory sexual life and so-relations. Even such a prominent sexologist could have problems coming to terms with his sexuality and sex itself, and that could come latched on a spree of his lifeline.
Sex isn’t learnt by researching alone or waffling about it, and thus sexuality claims for further techniques that surpass those seen in the books, magazines, and documentary. Being sexy is learnt from cradle, or not, depending on those experiences lived up and how they’re perceived by each one of us. Curiosity could be fulfilled by reading into research, although background and self-awareness is what would supply the spike in our sexual life.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Beginner Fetish Toys

Fetish isn’t just for freaks anymore; sex toys and other kink have gone entirely mainstream. You see it in the movies, on television and can even buy bondage gear at the local mall. Kinky sex has finally become acceptable -- this is your big chance to have a little extra fun in the bedroom. Nervous? Don’t be. BDSM (Bondage and discipline, Domination and submission and Sadism and masochism) ranges from mild to wild, and you can set your own pace for exploration.We’re going to look at the lighter side of fetish, the side most women will be receptive to thanks to its frequent exposure in the media. Start your journey here -- you may be surprised where it takes you. Here are some great beginner fetish toys:

Silk scarves

Many women fantasize about being tied up -- or tied down. Want to find out if yours is among them? Bring a handful of silk scarves to bed and hide them away under a pillow. Tease her body until she’s begging you to have your wicked way with her. When she’s reached the point of no return, grab one of the scarves and slide it over her body. Lean in closely and tell her you’re going to tie her wrists together; if she moans, you probably have a real bondage baby on your hands. If she reacts with fear, slow down; this might not be her bag. You can always try again at a later date.Tip: If this is her first time, don’t tie her to an inanimate object. Instead, tie her wrists together -- this will turn her on while still allowing her to feel like she could escape if she wanted to. You want her to feel restrained, not cemented.
Candle wax

This may sound painful, but it’s an exceptionally erotic sensation. Set a candle on the bedside table and make sure it’s in reach. Drive her wild with the foreplay she loves -- kissing, nibbling, etc. As she writhes beneath you, reach for the candle and let it hover above her thigh. Gently tilt the candle to the side until a single drop falls; testing this fleshier, less sensitive area will let you gauge whether or not she’s going to enjoy wax play. If she loves it, continue at a leisurely pace -- this is not something you want to rush through. Unless she specifically requests it, avoid placing the wax on highly sensitive areas such as her face, nipples, clitoris, etc.Tip: Adult gift shops often sell specialty candles that burn at a lower intensity than your garden variety house candle. If you’re both new to wax play, this is an excellent place to start.
Spanking paddle

Spanking isn’t just for punishment anymore -- it can be a very pleasurable experience. The phrase “hurt so good” definitely comes to mind. Sex shops carry a variety of paddles, but if you’re just starting out, these could really scare a novice. Start with something innocuous; we recommend a ping-pong paddle. The next time things are getting hot and heavy, test the waters by spanking her lightly with your hand. If she doesn’t object, keep going. When it becomes clear that she’s hot for this kind of play, grab the paddle and give her bottom a light smack -- and watch the vixen surface.Tip: Pause between spankings and firmly massage her bottom with your hands. This will add greatly to the mixing of pain and pleasure.

Blindfold

When used properly, a blindfold can magnify arousal by leaps and bounds. While they do sell proper masks for this purpose, they’re not terribly sensual. Your best bet is making use of one of the silk scarves you brought to bed earlier. The appeal of the blindfold is simple enough -- the sound of your voice, the feel of your breath on her skin -- their effects are amplified when sight is restricted. Watch her quiver with anticipation as you discuss what you’re about to do to her; you’ll be amazed by how aroused you both become.Tip: Be careful when securing the blindfold; it’s very easy to inadvertently pull hair when doing this. You don’t want her associating this kind of play with pain.
Cock ring

These have come a long way over the years, and they can really spice up a sexy evening. Who doesn’t want a larger penis with a never-ending erection? You can choose from a variety of styles, colors and materials. If traditional steel sounds a bit unpleasant, you can always opt for something soft and pliable. Cock rings aren’t just for men, either -- try a vibrating ring on for size. These will double her pleasure by stimulating the clitoris during sex.Tip: Most cock rings are not one size fits all; measure yourself before purchasing. If you experience pain, tingling or numbness, remove immediately and buy a larger one.

Be safe, sane and consensual

Fetish play can make for a very rewarding sex life, but it’s crucial that boundaries be respected at all times. If your woman is apprehensive, take the time to discuss her concerns and be willing to slow down. As trust builds, she’ll be willing to delegate more control, and that’s really what responsible fetish play is all about. Make her feel safe with these beginner fetish toys and she’ll happily follow your lead.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Biting

If you want to see a woman squirm with desire, use your teeth during foreplay. Believe it or not, the body reacts to moderate pain in the same manner it reacts to a skilled mouth or tongue: with instant arousal. As the mind catches up, intense sexual excitement follows; it’s always a turn-on to discover a man has that kind of power over a woman’s body. Which means that biting her in the right place (at the right time) could really make her scream your name.That being said, every woman’s threshold for pain is different, so you may need to adjust your technique before you really hit the spot. And you’ll know when you have -- the moaning and writhing will be a dead giveaway.
Biting dos
Bite her erogenous zones
If biting is new terrain for you, start with the nape of the neck. Most women find the area highly sensitive and absolutely love being kissed here. This makes for an easy transition once you have her purring with delight. The inner thigh is equally deserving of your attention, and will often result in her begging for clitoral stimulation. If you really want to drive her wild, don’t give in to the request; continue nibbling a trail along the edge of her thigh until she loses control. And she will. Other areas you’ll want to pay special attention to include the curve of her waist, her lower back, the area just below her breasts, and her bottom.

Create buildup
It won’t do to just sink your teeth in before her body’s ready for it -- that could really be painful. You want her in an aroused state, both physically and mentally. Start with the foreplay you’ve already mastered: kiss her, caress her, talk dirty to her. If you’d like to up the ante, try something new and unique. Once the desire is obvious, gently drag your teeth across a shoulder, thigh or hip -- anywhere fleshy to ensure minimal pain in case she doesn’t like it. If she shudders with pleasure, consider it a green light to continue -- but tread lightly. You want to find her pain threshold without crossing it. Keep an eye on her facial expressions and she’ll let you know when to say when.

Keep it quick
The secret to keeping real pain out of the equation is keeping it quick. The longer you maintain the bite, the more pain is registered. Therefore, the ideal nip really shouldn’t last more than a few seconds -- unless she asks for something more intense, of course. You’ll also want to make sure you don’t spend too much time in one spot; this could get painful fast. You don’t want her feeling like she’s in bed with Dracula!

Biting don’ts

Don’t bite random areas
No matter how much she enjoys this kind of play, random biting can result in a very turned-off woman. In other words, don’t bite the first thing you see, unless it’s one of the areas we’ve already discussed. Biting the wrong place could really freak her out and ruin an otherwise sexy evening -- especially if she’s never been bitten by anyone before. We want her moaning with pleasure, not agony.

Don’t make noises
She may love it when you turn into an animal, but that doesn’t mean she wants you to sound like one. Certain noises simply have no place in the bedroom -- slurping and smacking of the lips are particularly disgusting. No matter how skilled you are at nibbling her neckline, toss a slurp in there and that’s the end of that. Silliness can have the same effect, so avoid comments like “Yummy!” or other sayings one might hear on a playground.

Don’t gnaw
It goes without saying, but the more you nip one particular area, the less pleasurable the sensation becomes. The same goes for anything resembling a chewing motion: There’s nothing sexy about feeling gnawed upon. Keep your bites crisp, clean and quick to prevent her feeling like a chew toy.

Love bites
Biting can be a very pleasurable experience for a woman, and it’s something many of them secretly yearn for. Unfortunately, men often hesitate to experiment with the idea, fearing they might be thought of as too animalistic. Rest assured, biting is a natural instinct that arouses even the most vanilla of women. Take these tips to bed and watch how quickly she melts in your mouth.
Kisses,
Jesse~

Pleasure with Anal Sex

Anal sex, a penis entering either a female or a male anus. This penetrative sex as another mode of pleasure wield during sexual intercourse.
Nerve bundles equally to other sexual stimuli sensitive body parts serve the anus. It’s known that anal sex takes a lot of flak from sexual taboos of modern society. Some misinformed people hold anal sex as dirty and gruesome. A line of perception that too has deteriorated since the advent of the AIDS pandemic.
A sexual pleasure yielded believed to stem even from taboo mongering, whereupon the act of doing something whether wrong or naughty according to society’ is perhaps utterly exciting. As for men, given that the anus is poorly lubricated and somewhat tight, renders the idea even more exciting.
The various positions that a female figure should be at for more comfort in penetrative sex is such highly exciting factor for men as well, who reportedly feel more powerful, dominant, in sexual affairs.
However, anal sex isn’t every one’s cup of tea. People should know best what gives them sexual pleasure. There are those who would enjoy licking and touching but won’t tolerate the idea of penetrative sex.
For the sake of information, the anus is extremely stretchable and bound to endure even a fatty-penis. So much for fist fucking, a highly skilful technique supposedly gives off great pleasure. Not for the fainthearted tough, for apprentice starts with one finger and builds up from there. As known, the rectum is the final part of the digestive tract and so highly contagious, mostly bacteria. Contact with other body parts may cause serious infections. Anal sex is STD’s main door such as AIDS and Hepatitis B, thus the need for safer sex. The first anal sex experience may be followed by pain or discomfort, as much as inexperience, tension and insecurity are influencing factors. However, as time goes by, if someone enjoys anal sex will turn more relaxed as pain tends to recede turning into sexual pleasure.
Muscles relax from easygoing mind-approach, that is to say, anal sex pleasure takes self-control. Feeling at ease helps self-acknowledgement. When having shower try and shovel a finger up ever so slowly while releasing muscle tension. Keep nails short and always lubricated before inserting in anything. When a finger starts to feel kind of all right go for twos and then threes, constantly probing before moving onto serious poking. And with practice, anyone can afford a whole hand in and then some.
Sex partners should take advantage of foreplay added by loads of lubes or play the old 69 giving the anus a good lather of saliva prior penetration.
Some sexual positions enable anal sex farther, made possible by popular demand are:
She on top- ideal for the newcomer as she gets to set pace and depth of penetration.
From rear- the old in out as she kneels down exposing her hidden secrets, now there’s a catch, for each time a penis goes inside the vagina the condom has to be changed before it goes in the anus due to the threat of cross-infection. Sign of the times.
Face to face- she on her back bring knees up to chest height placing feet on his shoulders. Easy penetrative angle of sex, unsuitable for beginners.
Back view- she places a pillow mound underneath her tummy while he lies on top opening her cheeks with hands. Degree of difficulty-quite hard.
But it all comes down to personal experience, Find out yours and spread around.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Self Fellatio

The mouth to penis stimulation is called fellatio, the oral sex for be practiced on men. The mouth approach of your own sexual organ is known as self-fellatio.It calls for a great deal of flexibility given the range of motion required to get it done. Although it sounds weird it’s not so unusual and may be regarded as a sort of male wise masturbation. Its female version is called self-cunnilingus. Despite the lack of solid evidence as to whether the women could do it due to the degree of physical impairment within the mouth to vagina leverage. Our average male might be put off by the idea of sucking his own manhood but others may perceive it otherwise. In addition, it’s no exclusivity of those in for sexual deviations or the gay men themselves.
One too many straight acting and sexually healthy males could have resorted on it, as an alternative to the old hand job. Mostly those well-hung and well-limbered ones seemingly made no bones about it. Moreover, certain male contortionists would have apparently chosen the trade exactly for that reason, it’s particularly supported. It goes without saying that not every wick-wacky character would be a self-fellator in potential, since the background however outlandish isn’t accurate. A handful of males have already relied on it regardless. There’d be plenty of literature on the net, regarding the range of motion to a better result. Out of curiosity, also mythological figures would rely on it, namely the Egyptian god Ra, who gave origin to other gods after spiting his own cum. So did the god Osiris every night in order to keep the stars aligned.There’s also data on the existence of hieroglyphs and ancient Egyptian imagery making reference to it. Nothing conclusive however, once the approach is not regarded as casual to the day, all the imagery and records might have been destroyed in favor of common sense. Those who rely on it usually don’t tell anybody in that the existing data might be highly controversial. Whichever way it comes, is here to stay, as supported by graphic material, and likely to become mainstay. Care is needed to avoid getting hurt though. Never overlook health and safety for the sake of curiosity. Every single hint must be taken into account when it comes to sexuality so as to prevent going overboard and to keep the diseases at bay.As luck would have it, there’s nothing established in terms of self-fellatio as yet, given the lack of feedback to endorse it.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex and Teasing Sounds

Take the vital role that sounds can play in terms of sex, no wonders there’s so much attention drawn upon it. A wide range of sounds comprised the chapter VII of Kamasutra. Of which a matching sound is given to each body part, in accordance to the Hindu art of loving. No matter how weird it sounds, it still gives raise to some good argument. Could sex talk share common ground between the world’s languages and dialects?
For the English speaking world, it seems like the sound of clipped “o” is the most usual and maybe the more eloquent articulation for sexual ecstasy, followed by an open vowel. It’d be interesting to know which articulations are most employed during orgasm elsewhere.

Apart from the pleasure derived while hearing or saying illiterate words, reading erotic-orientated material also yields pleasure. This seems to occur in those relationships whose one or both partners, the male most likely, gets horny by reading porn stuff.
Those sexual diaries, meant to arouse both writer and reader at the same time, would also fall in this category.
Even threads and messages forwarded at the chat rooms can mean a lot for some out there. Both language and sex matter would have to match certain specifications on the subject done by a man, who, if what’s attributed to him really is his work, is considered the crème de la crème of all writers: William Shakespeare.
He managed to put it so well. He employed words like cliff, sanctuary, slit, cove, eye, gate, hole, locker, prune, muff, ring, privates and tail to describe the female genitalia. With regard to the male organ, he’d called it carrot, piece, organ, bough, thing, tool and rod.
The influence that sex played upon the alimentary and food vocabulary altogether is much larger than most hold true.
So, it’d be nice if there could be at least two English words of the cuisine framework brought across, whose semantic background bears clear sexual connotation- stew, mid-English slang for whore house, and vanilla, which sprang up from the Latin word vagina.
While the sexual meaning in these words appeared prior to their employment in the food chain, the semantic background of the word tart would mean totally the opposite.

Likewise the word honey can be switched from sweet into affection, tart, naturally referred to a small tartlet, which was initially applied to a young woman with mellow expression, it went on to meaning young women sexually desirable, then those reckless women morally speaking and finally, just recently, on to streetwise women, a.k.a. pros.
Practically in every language, be it the most widespread “culture wise” of the big nations or less known of certain tribes, there are terms that usually get employed with a well-defined sexual meaning. Needless to say, words as such tend to appear more often in the common sense, but are no less important however.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sensual Touching Techniques

By discovering how responsive your bodies are to certain sensations you and your partner can heighten your potential for sexual arousal. Here are a few suggestions.

The partner being touched

Lie naked on a bed or wherever is comfortable. If you're brave enough, you can be blindfolded to heighten the experience.
The secret of success is to make sure you're lost in the moment. Allow yourself to feel every sensation to the full by thinking of nothing else. Remember to give feedback to the toucher.

The partner doing the touching

Before you start, you could use an old-fashioned hairpin to find your partner's non-genital erogenous zones. Slowly run the hairpin over their body. Most of the time they'll only feel one point of contact, but on the highly sensitive erogenous zones they'll feel both.
It's your job to provide a wide range of different stimuli for your partner to experience. Work from head to toe experimenting with a range of different objects and textures.
Try using a silk scarf or a soft blusher brush. Can your partner tell the difference between suede, leather and velvet? How about rubber or a feather? Now try touching with a massage roller or ball.

Experiment with different pressures and different strokes too. Heighten the sensory expectation by making random rather than predictable movements.
Remember to ask what feels good and what feels best.
When you've had enough, swap roles. But be warned - it could be a long night!

Kisses,

Jesse~

Flirting 101: 10 Tips to Make

You don't have to look like Jennifer Anniston or Brad Pitt to make the guys (or girls) go gaga. All you need is your fabulous smile and a few surefire flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the opposite sex like paparazzi to a movie star.
For women, the key is to look approachable enough for men to feel comfortable in taking a risk. For men, the secret is in showcasing your masculinity. (And no, that doesn't mean adjusting yourself or proving once and for all that you are the Belching King.)

1) Lock Eyes
Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the guy's forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them you're flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
2) Smile
Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox. Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a giant plastic used car salesman smile, just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick. According to body language expert Patti Wood, "the smile is the international signal of friendliness." Guys, if you lock eyes and smiles with a woman three or more times in an evening, you have received a clear signal that she's interested. Make your move, head on over and start up a conversation. If you don't, somebody else will.
3) Be a Vampire's Best Friend
One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the exposure of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip, or my personal favorite, the over-the-shoulder glance - the asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because it's sexy and it sends a signal to your target that they are worth a second look.
4) Preen Like A Peacock
We tend to preen or groom ourselvessubconsciously when we're attracted to someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick in a compact, or straightening a tie. Try combining a grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze. Another trick? Toss your hair to one side. This classic move is a double whammy that combines preening and a flash of neck. Need we say more?
5) Lip Service
Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. How to make the most of it? For women, try wearing a red lipstick (red has been shown to increase a man's heart rate), which not only gives your lips that youthful color, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable. For both men and women, try licking your lips (subtlety is key here, you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick.) or biting your lower lip - both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.
6) Cross Your Legs (Women)
Crossing and uncrossing your legs is another surefire flirting technique, especially if you're wearing high heels. The act of crossing your legs is quite seductive to men, and it makes them desire to see more. Another key seduction trick is slipping your heel out of your shoe and dangling it on your toes. The arch of the foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves, and sends a man's heart racing.
7) Square Your Shoulders (Men)
Women are biologically attracted to more dominant men, so stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
8) Let Your Feet Do The Talking
According to body language expert Wood, you want to make yourself a "safe" (read approachable) target. Wood says "to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. "
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws female attention. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes pointing outward.
9) Be a Mimic
People mirror each other's body language when they are attracted with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking your flirting target's behavior. If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel as though the two of you are connected and "in tune."
10) Focus, Focus, Focus.
Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying. There is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you utterly fascinating. Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the shoulder or elbow.

How to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for the signs above, especially extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing.
How to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the signs above are fantastic indicators, but men tend to take things a little further by demonstrating their social status with moves that can include, flashing cash and talking about their occupations and (you guessed it) cars.

Kisses,

Jesse~

GOOD SEX in LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS

Couples in long term relationships often complain of lagging sexual energy. In fact, over half of the people in my "Retreat for Couples" sexuality workshops attend with the hope of increasing their sexual energy, and others want to know they are not perverts for enjoying sex, especially at midlife and beyond. All want passion and they want it with each other. They want to grow old together as lovers, not roommates.
According to sexual older couples, keeping sexual energy is satisfying but not easy. Hidden sexual energy can be found when people know how and where to look. Most couples search for it where it feels comfortable, not where it is. Couples often act like the drunk searching for his keys under a street light because darkness prevents his looking for them where they are.
Comfort, more than anxiety, obstructs sexual passion; yet, comfort is necessary to relationships. It affirms and sustains partners with closeness, familiarity and predictability. Partners who stay friends for life know how to care about, respect, and complement each other's growth. There is ease in comfort.
Staying exclusively in your personal comfort zone stifles sexual energy. Couples seek comfort (look only under the streetlight) and avoid anxiety (dodge the darkness). Anxiety is hard to bear, but managing it can fuel growth. Relationships without anxiety allow blandness to overshadow intimacy. A "no-growth" agreement prevails when partners avoid tension, discomfort, and knowing each other. The cost of rigidly maintaining comfort is the sacrifice of sexual energy.
Being deeply sexual over time with your life partner produces both joy and anxiety. This means that consciously managed anxiety can promote, even escalate, erotic energy. For example, the ability to soothe your own anxiety instead of expecting your partner to do it for you helps you create a resource for erotic feelings. This is equally true for adult survivors of incest and other traumas.
Anxious tension between partners can push them to develop tolerance, skill, and taste for highly erotic sex: "Am I willing to say how deeply sexual I feel or don't feel, and why?" "Do I say what I really want/don't want,?" "Do I say 'yes' to myself as well as to my partner?" "Do I keep faith with myself when I get upset or disagree?" "Do I have the courage not to fake feelings, not to protect against uncomfortable emotions we both avoid?" "Do I speak the truth about my own experience?"
Managing anxiety in the service of growth means you risk improving yourself in relationship. You demonstrate integrity when you manage yourself. Integrity helps you judge which anxieties to risk, such as getting to know your hidden self with your partner, and which to forego, such as having an affair. By managing anxiety you deepen your relationship as you stay intentionally connected to your partner. For example, you learn to affirm and sustain yourself; you become self-validating without pushing your partner to be different even when you dislike him/her. You can tolerate your partner's intense emotions and you can accept and regulate your own, even when that feels impossible. You compromise neither yourself, your partner, nor your self-respect, and you promise yourself to do all this in relationship. Managing anxiety means you can tolerate intimacy. This is different from closeness. Where closeness is usually anxiety-free, familiar, comfortable, and predictable, intimacy can be anxiety-laden, strange, risky, and surprising. Intimacy is the deep experience of self in relation to a partner. With intimacy, you experience yourself in a different, new, and profound way, not necessarily at the same time your partner does.
Intimacy can be profoundly joyful and penetratingly uncomfortable. The latter happens when you presume your partner will either reject you or smother you (they can do both) and you actually believe you are helpless to handle yourself in the face of either event (as an adult you are, in fact, not helpless and will survive both without ado). It is the former when you finally own your thoughts, feelings, and behavior and are willing to share all this with your partner, with and without anxiety.
Intimacy is not negotiable (behavior is negotiable). People who can risk both integrity and intimacy often stay sexually expressive in some manner throughout life. They struggle successfully to be true to themselves and at the same time face the anxiety inherent in a life that will certainly end no matter what else happens in it. This can be a powerful incentive and deterent to learn to be deeply sexual with the life partner you know you will eventually lose. In a culture that decries death, it takes courage to love a partner for life.

Kisses,

Jesse~