Condom Wearing and Safe Sex

It's been a while since I began wondering about condom wearing, about safe sex, and on top of that, with what the media has been brought to us in information fabrics.
What the media has been doing is to offer better leverage on sexual freedom, attempting to pass on the idea that with the use of condoms everything will be alright, people can engage in sex games with whoever pleased, thus anything bad will happen.
Sexual freedom indeed exists and not from yesterday, though publicity about condom wearing takes us aback to the idea as such with condoms sex means always safety, in times of carnival, then, becomes staple commodity. So exactly therein lies the problem, on which point may bring upon a certain degree of "obliviousness", regarding mainstream issues, hence, failure in giving the real importance that safe sex should always bear. That condom wearing is as important as fundamental nowadays in sexual rapport, it is unquestionable. Otherwise I just want to prompt people and the youth, by and large, not to read too much into what advertising offers so-recommend, even more so since behind broadcasting entrepreneur's money plowing, and the commercialization of product exists. After all, condoms apart from special protection are selling rates that must be met. So far, I can't see nothing wrong with that, each one of us with own responsibilities in our society. But, too a human being, such precious gift of God, must wise up, pinpoint accurate information whenever needed, as opposed to become gullible.
Safe sex aids us to fender off against undesired pregnancy, sexually infected diseases and AIDS, but care must be given by all means.
Heard that proverb -"says you say who"? The same applies to sex-linked diseases, no one is altogether sure of the other's status. AIDS has no benchmark and nobody is free from it unless relying on sexual abstinence and that makes part of personal choice, nonetheless I find it so unlikely in these days and age. Arguably, it is the only way to feel entirely safe.
Condom usage imparts outright the idea of a penis inside the vagina or anus, to do so by proper safety procedures. What about safe sex? Mostly with regard to those not so well-known, whether one follows suit or disregard it altogether. Coming from the principle that sex bears more than just the penis inserted in the vagina or anus, yet there is oral sex, mutual masturbation, fondling, caresses and scratching, hence the likelihood of contamination.
People presently feel rather detached towards sex issues, so- needed awareness and care, for all that, couples swapping seems the shape of current-affairs and in face of that risks increase.
Always keep condoms within reach, double check expiry date and whether country of origin complies with procedures, and put it on whenever contact of the penis with the vagina occurs and not just in penetration.
Noticeably, sex puts so much at stake, but if you respect your health and the loved-one's, you would follow suit with pleasure. It's health and sex life, thus your life. It's everything in life.

Kisses,

Jesse~

The Flu

Hi everyone, I have had the flu for the last week almost. I felt a bit better today so I wanted to catch up and touch base with you all. Well basically as I said I have been sick with the flu and pretty much in bed. This flu has really taken its toll on me, so much so that I couldn't even get my laptop out and web cam from bed. I really don't think anyone would want to see me anyway in the state that I am in at the moment, lol. I hope to be up and around to my old healthy self by tomorrow. I have pretty much watched all the movies I can take at this point. I have read several books and slept more than I have in a long time. I'm starting to get cabin fever now, lol.
I did however feel a little better today to go check things out at meetcam and was surprised at all the changes that have occured in the last few days. A second chat server has been added with more to come apparently. This could be very interesting to say the least.
I haven't reported too much lately on my web cam shows, and that is because there haven't been too many that have been all that exciting, lol. I mean I have had the usual wank to me while I dance naked, that seems to be the norm anymore. Many of my girlfriends that I used to play on web cam with are busy with boyfriends or school and the few male friends that I would play with on cam get too involved or start to like me more than what I am wanting them to, so I have to back off from them so they don't get all heart broken. I suppose I need to go and meet some fresh meat, lol. Well all this will have to wait until I am well over this Flu. Hopefully that will be sooner than later.
Well I will try to blog more again this evening but I am getting a little tired again and think I should lay down and rest a bit.
Kisses,
Jesse~

Sexuality and Stress

Answer in your very own words, when all stressed out, on the verge, if sexual life could be gratifying? If you replied yeas with all due sincerity then the best regards to ya, once it means that, you and your partner are able to keep things well apart. If you answered no instead, not to worry you just part of the vast majority of people whom faced with problems, whatever that is, undergoes certain libido rebound and hence, it’s normal that they don’t feel like getting laid and/or couldn’t care less about sexual indulgence. Mind you that several could be the causes likely to drive someone all worked up, overboard. Redundancy, work strains (overly meetings, clientele shortage, fierce competition in the job market, frictions with high ranked staff and work mates), change in settings or trade. Family issues (rough edges within marriage, divorce, and having a hard time coping with kids), illnesses, financial matters, mortgage, house building or refurbishing, all work no play; to name a few, are examples for the casual hurdles of ilk on the regular basis. It’s reasoned that the individual, hence the name, is unique, and so too, the way in which each one reacts to all of that or some such instances is a particularity. Anyone seeking aide from health experts, if the sexual context isn’t brought across, one might as well expect to get questioned in regards by some attentive staff. That’s because when someone is not happy, not in good terms with oneself, sexual life would be in tatters most likely, it’s only a matter of time. A few tips could prove helpful to fight off stress and get on with life. The first and foremost would be planning. Just like back at work wherein everything gets logged on for the sake of sparing time and dues, schedule that routine. Spare some time with yourself though. There might be a good massage session or going to the gym. Place aside some special occasion for the loved-one, a dinner or lunch for two would go a long way. If sickness happens to be the problem (self or a close friend’s), it’s fundamental to be well clued up treatment wise, then in certain cases it’s considered relevant to have the follow up from a psychologist apart from the doctor in charge, so that, support can be sought at times of hardship. As for the psychologist or psychiatrist (who else could prescribe most appropriate medicine), such backing could be reached when needed most. Reach out for yourself, so that, the way forward can be unveiled to cope with stress. So much for sex, the best tip is “relax and cum”. That’s right, forget about nags and turn sex into a joyful moment, as blissful, for rejoice and self-indulgence. Use your imagination if needed. Getting relaxed after some good shag is another excellent medicine against daily concerns. Do not forget that certain moments are priceless, timeless. Life and sex both meant to be lived up with indulgence in all its intensity.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Five Things That Women Hate in Bed

I believe that no man could possibly be proud of being called “boring lover”, and none of the women would like spend their lives or even just one night with a “stallion” with such a reputation. Therefore, we are here to help you with a several tips on how avoid such a “label” on your back. Here are five things that women really hate in their sex life:
Don’t be too carefulThe phrases like “can I?” are NOT sexy. They just kill the mood. A good lover knows how to let the woman know their next step and how to prepare her for it with no questions asked. Sometimes it is enough just to look in “undressing” way or a provocative touch your girlfriends’ body to give a signal for sex.
“Mechanical sex”Most women would agree that sex with no passion is boring, just a time spent with no particular reason. No woman wants to become an “inflatable woman” (perhaps only with a very little exception). I’m not saying that every sex you have has to be exclusively tremendous, but just don’t ignore the fact that every woman want to be a “woman” and it's always a good idea to keep that in mind. Be sensitive and sometimes not just have sex, but also “make love” to her.
MonotonyIf your girlfriend or wife know every crack in your ceiling – you are in a huge trouble. But don’t panic yet. A simple change of a place will help you out. Try doing it in your bathroom, kitchen, your car or even on a beach (of course find a place with no viewers), the possibilities are endless. Turn on your imagination.
Moaning and talkingToo loud moaning as well as too quiet is irritating for women. The silence is also not an option. You have to play careful here. Try to find the “golden middle” and to express your feelings to your girlfriend but not to all the neighbors. Try not to use all the same words during the sex as well, try to find phrases how to say how sexy she looks, how great she is in bed you don’t have to repeat all the same three words, which we all are so afraid of.
Unwillingness to experimentIf you are in a long-term relationship, don’t be afraid to experiment. Sex life does get boring, and there is a lot you can do about it. Try different positions, role-playing give a freedom to your fantasies. Do whatever you want to if your partner agrees with it, and if it would spice up your love life.
Discuss you fantasies with your partner at the glass of a good wine, and you would be surprised how fast they can turn into reality.
These are the main guidelines how to improve your sex life. What I wanted to say here is that women do not seek Casanova in every man. They just want you to make an effort to your relationship.
Remember that opposite of “boring” is exiting and unexpected, so if you try from time to time to surprise your partner, you will not be in trouble. The most important thing is that you would have a partner who would be willing to change for you too.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sexual Penetration

The mainstream of heterosexual sexual relation's, so lodging the penis in the vagina, a.k.a. penetration. The sensitive opening of the vagina bears most appropriate shape so that would it offer sensations to all sized penised. This area becomes intumesced with sex-linked arousal increasingly effect even further.
Despite being always moisten the vaginal walls produce a lub fluid of whitish color when a woman gets excited. A similar process to what induces erection in men. The resulting moist reduces fretting but increases glans sensitivity, enhancing thrusting movements.
Another characteristic of the vagina being its acidity, which helps curbing outbreaks of germs and perhaps cross-infection or other source of inflammation. Vaginal acidity increases at the threshold of female orgasm. There would also be interesting to address that women on calorie rich diets have rather acidic ph.
Being the male spermatozoids as the XY chromosome more vulnerable to acidity than the female spermatozoids namely the XX chromosome. The result of this is that, depending on vaginal acidity, there's more probability that fecundation might generate a boy or a girl.
The vagina is also quite shallow, not getting over, in most women, roughly 8 cm of depth. In the phase of sex-linked arousal the vaginal cervix enlarges. Any given position might as well insert the wholly penis in; since as usual it's longer than the vaginal cervix.
In spite of the penis apparently getting effortlessly in and out of the vagina during sexual intercourse, the vulva moves a lot. Its internal lips adhere to penis and get pulled out, whence, folded inside out in the next movement. Women, by and large, move, stroke or compress the internal lips as part of their own masturbation.
On top of being source of sex-linked pleasure, the vaginal lips transmit mechanical forces to the touch-sensitive clitoris, so which gets stimulated. The internal lips divide above the clitoris to fashion a small prepuce similar to a man's.
As during sexual relation likewise during masturbation, there must the sensitive tip of the clitoris be stimulated. Such being mainstay through which could female orgasm be obtained.
A great many women enjoy clitoral stimulation additionally during penetration, or have it stimulated, if so willing to reach orgasm.
Although penetration of the penis in the vagina bears "the classic type' of sexual relation, other alternatives could be explored. Certain people demand partners of a certain kind or congress activities in order to induce sex-linked pleasure. In contrast, some men and women prefer anal intercourse. Not necessarily meaning that a man would be homosexual. Yet, oral sex is as good pleasure inducement as any.
Often-such variations of the so-called "classic type" being criticized by society. Hence, there ought to be notion of whether each form of sexual relation is preferred or refused, depending on social class, age, if urban or rural, so on and so forth. The most important being opting by whichever manner derives us sex-linked pleasure most, regardless of what society says about it.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Seeking Sexual Partners on the Web

Nowadays, sex and the Internet walk hand in hand. As such, the internet as a powerful means of mass media promotes safe harbour for liaisons, in that the browsing by erotic content from pornographic plethora to sexual flings.
The spot given by the Internet has enabled us to splash on virtual sex, which consisted, basically, of the individual act of masturbation by the cyberspace. On top of contributing in carried sexual affairs out of its realm.
The intentions behind this date could be quite explicit or subtle. At several chat rooms, the patrons’ underlying motto is to find some body for the sake of physical rapport, both loving and sexual.
However, such intentions are not let out in the open. Herein, the social dynamics on the cyberspace would emulate the material world. So, when two got talking in town and happen to fall for each other, there’d be sexual pursue, even if it didn’t come up in the first place. Otherwise there will be none. Speaking of which, there’s also sites that cater for those who are only interested in raw sex. Shortly after filling out some silly application form, which takes up few minutes, you could reach out for someone else within it. Depending on the options for searching there could be contact made by those who fall under a particular social profile (sex, age, walk in life, etc) or sexual orientation. There’s that too by logging on chat-rooms that cater for all walks of life. Although, in this case there would be necessary a word with the other users about. The search engine can not fulfill it automatically unlikely those sites for friends finding and soul searching. As far as certain users concern, kicking in some piece of sex would take a subtle approach, in favor of some unassumingly chit chat and for the sake of gradual seduction.
There’s pro sex running on the net as well. Those surfing about might have bumped into rent boys and escort girls alike. They log on in daily need basis to offer their services. Then a date is set up so that physical action can take place.
With the array of possibilities on sexual rapport rendered almost unlimited. Early people would have sex with those who shared attainable standards of living likewise. Actually, the youth would get laid with school mates and home grown peers. As for the grown ups, by and large, would be shagging with co-workers or social walks who sharing common grounds.
Now, by the internet, sexual affairs can, most often, spring out of unlikely social backgrounds. Without it they would never come across and had it off. A great many nerds remarked that by the internet becomes a lot easier, faster and sharp for stringing up sexual flings.
Since privacy guaranteed by the users’, there could be found partners with same sexual preferences, no matter how weird it might sound. In a sense, it has brought upon a lot of goodies for ilk and so too sexuality.
None the less, most unfortunately, therein pitfalls and precautions lie idle to be taken up. Pulling down some sexual fling through the internet can turn out such a good experience after all. Although care must be taken so as to not approach those emotionally overburden or moody.
Thus virtual sex, whether online or else, came up to shed light on a particular streak of the human sexuality.
Sexual arousal lies beyond plain physical contact with some body. If it’s possible for someone before a piece of junk indulge in sexually, then the prime sexual organ for the humankind is the brain.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Male GSpot and Anal Sex

Everybody heard of the male g-spot, embedded in the prostrate, which lies beneath the bladder and behind the testicles. When a man is in the right mood for sex, a muscle called puboccigeos (a muscle linked to the pubis thus encapsulating organs such as bladder and rectum, supporting them) aka “the love muscle”, goes up against the prostrate. Such pressure onto the prostrate is what the sensation responsible for sexual indulgence would feel like. So far so good, once the male g-spot could be stricken by simply approaching that bit which lies within the testicles and the anus, upon which sexual indulgence would be ensured anyhow. Yet for even higher pleasure for him, the ideal would be to reach out for it from within, in that, inserting a finger or more in his anus. Fare enough that most gay men enjoy the feeling from being penetrated. The other’s penis nudges onto the g-spot itself, rendering sex utterly satisfactory. One doesn’t have to be homosexual in order to allow his missus getting around his ass. A major issue and even prejudice, which detour many men from giving it a go comes latched precisely on that, to the fact that only gay men would derive pleasure out of anal sex. Conversely, anal sex is meant to be good for straight men as well. And it too doesn’t mean to be homosexual or that a man has gone”’the other way”. Otherwise, it’s another way to get their indulgence heighten farther. Just like women feel pleased while having their anus played, incidentally because their g-spot also can be better reached that way, the men could get their anus penetrated and not quit being men. No wonders that a penis shoveled all in might mean something entirely different, henceforth this piece sheds light on the insertion of fingers yet the mouth and hands approached in the male anus. To let his female approached this area remains unacceptable to man, thus many women wouldn’t even hint the possibility of bringing it across in fear of being misunderstood. And the men wouldn’t ask either, inbeing afraid of their females having second thoughts towards their sexuality. None of it is true. Men can let their anus being played, probed, and licked that they won’t have to swap their sexual orientation. It’s more of a cultural question than anything else and lingers to the fact that homosexuals can derive pleasure in anal penetration. This is so because as far as gay couples go, anal sex comes across as the only mode a couple could have sexual intercourse. This question is highly controversial and a lot can be talked about it. But all that can be said in short is that, allowing being played in there cannot override someone’s sexual orientation. Its misuse to say that a man who lets that taken place would be homosexual. He might as well be just spicing it up along with his partner, just another silly sex games. Then, by the way, would score much more out of this game.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex and Fetichism

As sexual disorder from the group of paraphilia the fetishism stands for the use of inanimate objects-(fetishes) during both the sex act and masturbation. The most commonly objects of fetish happen to be knickers, socks, shoes, either leather or PVC made boots or other pieces of the female guardrobe.
Anyone in for this kind of disorder usually masturbates while holding, rubbing or sniffing on a fetish object or might ask his partner to use it during sexual encounter. Thus pleasure for the fetishist lie in the object of fetish, in other words, he would only feel pleasure in sexual intercourse or masturbation if the object of desire is present. His arousal comes linked to the contact, thus the visualization of the fetish object other than sexual intercourse in itself.
A fetish, by the way, seems highly sought after or emphatically preferred as far as sexual arousal concerns, as men seemingly prone, in its absence, to display erectile dysfunction.
Does not fall under fetishism the individual that refrains oneself to the use of articles as of the female attire employed in transvestitism, or when the object is genitally stimulating-wise and devised for that purpose, as for example, the vibrator.
The fetishist is diagnosed when his preference becomes exclusivity and generates psychological sufferance or personal in as social rapport. A fetishist might cause disarray to his partner, should her ever refuse to put up with the object of fetish. Most often than not the women get to find out that their partners are fetishists, given they seem unable to concentrate on the sex act in the absence of such objects.
The woman could wound up feeling minimized in the relation or even as if ‘cheated on” by an inanimate object. Its thought important to remind that all paraphilia, amidst them, fetishism, are demeanors far different from those socially accepted. Furthermore, those into it get no other normal sexual activity, his sexual preference becomes exclusive and in its absence, both arousal and sex become unviable.
The fetish act gets an edge over; as it does not otherwise encompass what is regarded normal in terms of sexuality. However not exclusivity as far as disorders go, because those who bear paraphilia seem prone to display more than two types of disorders at the same time. Usually, fetishism springs in adolescence, despite the fetish might have embodied some special importance in infancy. Once established, fetishism is bound to become chronic, that is, would last forever in the sexual life of the individual.
Those into fetishism are people in for a sexual disorder. They have no control over their urges and their need for objects in sexual intercourse. Let it not be confused by some bad streak or other form of misbehave. It goes without saying that it’s thought fetishist that individual that is only able to keep up with sexual activity along with the use of objects. By contrast some indulgence or desire for asking the partner to fling some device in a one-off sex romp is no disorder; so-sharing part of the world of fantasies and desires of common ground for us humans.
In sex, thus sexuality, respect for the partner and the ideas trade off means everything. If there is will ever to indulge some fantasy in, there should consult the partner and gauge his willingness towards the idea. Nothing is totally prohibitive, what is not regarded as normal is the restriction towards some kind of sexual behavior.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Myths IV Good Sex Comes Attached To Beauty Strings

Beauty charms no one, what does is sympathy, charisma, and a knack for trade off sexual patterns. Terrible looks on someone extremely unpleasant it’s no use. It too depend on the other, someone might be extremely pleasant only for some not to somebody else.
There might sound cliché like, but disregarding whether bagging away a good night out of self-indulgence or attaining the ultimate sexual goal it’s the so-called “hidden beauty” of each and every one, what matters most. What lies in the outer most often than not are guises only, somehow ephemeris, wherein someone’s traits would really last much longer.
The fad of sex-linked beauty is also aligned to the cult of the body highly regarded by the current society. Since early, are folks taught that they would stand a better chance for success attained in their sexual affairs if were beautiful. Everybody wants to be beautiful, so that the others can admire it, and whoever falls short, ever gets. Aside from displaying terrible looks the body had better be in shape, and so well-hung up (in case of the male specimen), capable of having sex forever (never mind quality wise), cum galore (both genders). All of which notions and conceived ideas brought across by a given culture moved by the looks and all that goes with it, other than something meaningful of ilk.
Every body got skills which can be worship by folks alike. A flaw might mean something rather sexy for some, all to do with what turns on is sex. There those who wouldn’t mind beer belly let alone orange skin. Personal preference differs so widely as if there’s magic ever beauty count less.
Another sticky point that gets in the way of sex is when either of them would worry a way too much about minor glitches of the other. Awkward as it may seem, those fussy ones who by minding someone else’s flaws have spent much time, might be in for missing most of what could be derived from sex.
This is so because of the same reason that prompts people to mind their own streaks. Thus low self-esteem (I’m not entitled to keep such a beautiful person by my side to prevent myself from feeling even worst), and the misconceived idea of beauty as cornerstone (I don’t need to be good-looking but she does) and downright hedonistic that’s likely to look down on everyone’s handicaps.
Sex means much more than just a well-shaped figure, flawless. Sex got to do with self-esteem of both partners, along holding out prospects of sharing pleasurable moments. If one happens to dislike oneself, being unhappy with himself, might not flow sex in a smoothly manner, but though, turns out to be rather boring and distressful. It goes without saying that several sexual disorders (such as erectile disorder and sprees of hypoactive sexual drive), would relate deeper to psychological rebound than physical disability.
What beauty means for some might not be exactly everyone’s cup of tea. As we all come in shapes and colors. The bottom line is to love yourself would grant the capability of appreciation being so prized by someone else’s. Our hang ups got more to do with ourselves, as of self-acknowledgement other than what others would make of us.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Myths III Beauty Means Good Sex

Most of us ordinary people tend to believe in sexuality, as the sexual-linked pleasure strictly connected to beauty. Beautiful women would be considered more sensual, and so do those of well-chiseled physiques would be” better in bed” than those whose body shape seem less so. That’s not true. Prime time sex has got more to do with sexuality, reassurance, passion, self-esteem, other than beauty itself.
Beauty is pleasant for the eyes, instead of pleasurable. If someone, despite lagging behind physical attributions, seems capable of becoming horny, by giving and taking pleasure, infers in very good sex time.
The state of higher spirits is what could render sex delightful for both of them. What matters most is confidence there and then whilst seducing, the adrenaline rush, knowingly play along sensually and eventually geared up into action.
All of those into moved by the looks means the world, stand a great chance of missing most of what sex could offer while minding what the other might come to think of pinpointed pinches and zits or likewise flaw perhaps.
Most often, goes barely noticed by the other, who in turn finds himself embroiled into sex games other than elsewhere. What comes to show that beauty means no blue print is the fact that hundreds of men and women with the looks to die for seemingly unable to string up any steady relationship or even a good night-stand of all out sex.And just as many out there whose looks not so-terrible managed to get a fling every now and then. The name of the game is sexiness, as caring for yourself would claim the other’s attention, this so because nobody seems to like those who dislike themselves. In the best of it, those who love themselves seem quite straightforward. No such a thing as fads it’s all a matter of feeling, each one flaunts wealth whichever way would suit themselves best. So, there’s anything most beautiful than someone who takes cares of oneself, regardless of any given handicap. Obviously loving oneself imbued coming to grips with self-acceptance. And so people aren’t just the same, but bound to bore discrepant flaws and knacks, whether physically or psychologically.
Even those catwalk models have disclosed of some annoying spot on their physical attributes. To keep yourself in good terms does not mean having to neglect the existence of a given disability; instead it’s to recognize it by coming to terms with it from a positive outlook. In that the notion that claimed beauty is aphrodisiac in sex games seemed latched on to the misconceived idea that sex must resemble cinematographic. In the movies and magazines there’s always depicted women and men flashing their well-sculptured figures indulged into sex playing at will.
Those into sex-flicks would really thrive on it, for the sake of role-playing, which is meant to play upon their imaginary. Nonetheless, back in real life, the willing and dealing is what tease every one’s willingness.
It too could not be loving alone, but also sexual attraction, mustered-so admiration, and longing desires. There’s anything worst than having sex with someone who spent most of the time worrying about some flaw, or trying to hid underneath the sheets or dimly lit, as opposed to focus on the trade off that could be caught up with the other.

Kisses,

Jesse~