Sex Myths II

Any ordinary man if asked what his biggest fear in bed would be like, his reply would be failure when it comes to sex most likely. Failure, in the midst of other instances, might be perceived as a man’s failure in reaching or sustaining erection, not achieving sexual climax or taken longer than a woman to cum.
Although failing maybe not all that as far as the male gaze goes. If any pitfall ever exists, they would be failure as men, of the manhood. As far as they concern, the fact that they are unable to sustain a hardon much longer, may put them into a spree of low self-esteem so intense that would render them incapable of accepting what happen as something casual.
Fatigue and stress, he might’ve had much too much for drinking the night before, in which point could be enough reasons for him not to keep up with any sexually demanding relation.
Pressed by the urban legend in that he’d be super-man himself in bed, certainly would go up to his head and getting him so worked up that he can’t focus on making headway.
Perhaps some well-longed partner could drive this man out of his wits much to the point of having difficulty in erection.
All of the above means that men may also fail mostly because they’re not altogether sure of their sexual status. Yet not only does metabolism gear up whilst at having sex, therein much more lies underlying. The right ambiance, perhaps a tranquil set of mind, and bonds kept with the other in which point whether this rapport could influence on erection and sexual climax of a man.
The women by and large are not victims when this so-happen, most of them wond up by letting their partners down if ever confronted by any erection failure or unfinished orgasm. A great many women would put it down as being cheated on by the male counterpart, others, perhaps that he might’ve lost his sex drive towards them, or yet that he no longer loves them.
None of it might be actually happening, what could’ve ensued would be him not feeling up for sex, although he couldn’t say otherwise. Still most women turn all funny in face of a male “no”. Perhaps they might not be into sex by the very same reasons that they usually moaned about, never mind the men.
Meanwhile, the male public would not be running free by the lack of interest; there would be the equivalent of loosing masculinity somehow, if not manpower. This line of perception grants his drawbacks at sex times a good failsafe for him to keep on trying and figure out what struck him for weeks to come, leaving him possibly en course towards new mishaps as a spin off. Streaks of depression and inferiority are quite common in such cases.
And if anything of the kind ever happen, it would be paramount for this man to know that it might strike upon at any stage of his life. So reassurance can be sought should it ever strike again or if he happens to turn self-conscious in regards to his sexual performance.
It would be cornerstone knowingly that’s not so unusual, and a great many things might be underlying in any failure, however likely to revert. A man is bound to fail, it too happen by various reasons; even so a one off situation doesn’t mean he is in for loosing his virility or doomed to fail much further.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Myths I

For ages some school of thought has prayed on men as bigger cheaters than women. Even today it resembles much en vogue although slowly but surely loosing ground. Both men and women cheat much in the same proportion, what would change are the methods employed by each one. A man could cheat just to kick in some casual sex out of his steady pace back at digs, as for the woman, usually finds herself far too taken by the other while cheating.
Betrayal is by no means positive. Shatters with relationships, leaves scars on who does it and the one who gets it so, when its the woman’s turn, those nearby would seemingly baffled with what took place as opposed to when men do it.
The women cheat on their other halves by various reasons, however usually are those on emotional and affective grounds that would leave the women most incline to seeking another partner, namely lack of attention, reassurance, prime time sex by partner sided.
However hard it seems, the women could seek someone else just for the sake of pocketing some fling as novelty, even more so because of this cult of freedom that’s been going on about nowadays.
Whenever betrayal from the woman’s part exists, it would be highly unlikely that this rapport could last much longer, even if her partner never gets to find out anything about it. This so because the woman wouldn’t go out of her way any further carry on with something already done over and yet there might not be any strings attached with the other.
The men whenever at it, most often than not look out for casual sex. It might as well happen that emotional strings getting attached with the other woman, however far from turning into anything likely that steady relationship his on.
Hardly ever men would walk out on their missus just for some other rag. What usually happens is that the cheated one gets to find out about “the other” and walks off.
When the woman cheats, she usually wouldn’t feel guilty about it since she got so far and can only do so much for that partner she cheated on. The bottom line is worn out relationship. Given that the men tend to read a lot into their “sneaking out” then if their women ever find out, they usually beg for forgiveness on grounds of ever doing it again. At the same time, the women forgive more easily any backstabbing done by their male counterparts than any men would ever, incidentally these men, tend to grow highly suspicious of any move of their women after doing so.
Much as elsewhere, both men and women are so alike and at the same time so unlikely. Both are capable of doing pretty much the same, despite perceiving their deeds otherwise. This is what sorts out the female treason from a male one, each gender’s motto and their way of approaching on a given event.
In terms of betrayal, there’s no such notion that the women don’t rely on it any longer. By all means they do in the same intensity rate that ordinary men would. Far from meaning that every single men or women is up to no good, much less instilling something that only naughty women would get down to recklessly. Everybody is prone to cheating, what changes are the reasons behind each one’s moves.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Why Women Fake Orgasm?

Everybody heard rumours about women faking orgasms. Is that true? The majority of women have faked at least one orgasm, yet some fake almost all of them. Why do they do that? There are many reasons and the case is that there's no one to blame.
The most common are two reasons: they don't want to make their partners feel bad or they are tired and just want to end sex. Most females say that their partners are not satisfied until the girls feels orgasm, there's only one way to make them feel happy and stop the exhausting procedure - fake.
Another reason is that a typical female doesn't seek for orgasm; she desires a sexual relationship only because she wants intimacy. Still, such an attitude may make her partner feel bad. The only way out is to fake it out.

Some women never really experience orgasm while making sex, but they want their partner to feel good about himself and her. Men usually expect women to have pleasure, that's why females have no other choice. They have to fake to have a good relationship.
Loss of interest, having sex only because the partner wants to, also makes women to fake. Most females talk to their friends about such things and while they know other women act it, they do so too, because it's an easier way to have a good relationship.
When a man tries very hard, sometimes even too hard to make his woman have an orgasm, the woman usually finds it better to fake it than to disappoint her partner once again. They fear rejection if a man wouldn't understand her, they don't want to offend men because the absence of an orgasm is actually not their fault.
Some women may have health problems. If, while experiencing she becomes too sensitive and wants to stop, she fakes an orgasm in order to stop and relax. Orgasm may also cause discomfort and pain; that's a serious problem and she can't be blamed for faking. In such cases, most women prefer and enjoy orgasm more during solitary masturbation. Although they feel better while having orgasm themselves, they want to make their partner feel good too, so they act an orgasm out.
A female orgasm can be most easily faked by a good actress. There are few options: gripping something tightly; moaning loudly; breathing deeply; burying face into something (pillow); doing kegels or anything else at least remotely dramatic or climatic.
What to do if you think your partner is faking? Talk about it. Maybe she knows some special position or action that would make her happy. Don't get angry if she admits faking. Try to solve the problem, but don't get too far, don't try too hard because it may become an exhausting activity rather than an act of love.
Women act and men can do nothing about it; and maybe they shouldn't? Try to find out the real reasons of faking and discus possible ways out. Don't blame your partner for it; it's natural for women to do so from time to time. Show her your passion, love and try to understand her. Don't be an egoist in such an important part of relationship.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex as a group

It grows by leaps and bounds, at these days, the amount of couples becoming adepts of swing as sexual practice. Mostly in big cosmopolitan centers, wherein locations and function rooms are being mushroomed fashionwiseSwapping partners isn’t much novelty in sexual traditionalists, having accounts on orgies being run at large in ancient Rome, so much for common practice as casual. A search for pleasure, by the boost onwards sexual rapport and to get away from boredom in claims of seeking to unveil new sensations, are the key elements that lead open-minded couples into reaching out for it. Means cornerstone to pin down that only those couples on balanced relationships as trustworthy would dare to get into such sexual liaison. Nearly always, those who are into it get to establish a code of practice likely to be followed suit, in common accordance, so that backtracking can be prevented in advance. The swing means basically swapping partners, i.e., one’s wife by the other’s and vice versa.There’s also, functioning as such for group sex where many men and women can let all hang out. They get down to all sorts of sexual practices, as in virtually anything goes is fun. This practice is known otherwise as orgy or bacchanals, and stems from Greek roots in the 4th century BC, in homage to the god Dionysius and in Rome, afterwards in homage to the god Bacchus. Participants in group sex might be married or not, gay, bisexual or straight and, in spite of the goal having sex at its best, some would prefer just to watch and masturbate. Another variant, highly popular as well, is the ménage-à-Trois, a French expression that means “threesome”. Therein a couple gets sexually entwined with a third party, who could be either male or female.When the third participant is a woman, it’s used to employ the act of double fellation and homosexual relation between the females. This one maybe the first and foremost fantasy of every man and some get to strike luck and enjoy it fully.When the third one happens to be a male, aside from the woman standing better chance of giving head on two men at the same time, might as well go for double penetration. Not to mention the attainable possibility of oral sex while being penetrated in either end. By contrast, a one to one between males is still kept under wraps although believed nonchalant.Any sexual practice whereupon another figure exists, demands a quite substantial degree of complicity from the couple, and still, despite all the sanctions and conditions imposed, there exist the possibility of fall outs, due to inherent factors and the very nature and feelings of each one. In a nutshell, this one might stands perhaps for the fantasy to be individually or commonly shared between many couples, and which for the vast majority is bound to remain just so, for the sake of upholding their relationships’ sexual health. After all, to fantasize is like children’s stuff and pretend to be flying as some cartoon character of a choice. But try to jump from a rooftop.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Therapy

What if the problem is sexual wise? How to go about it? These and other queries mull over the minds of those in for emotional luggage from sexual issues, who in turn don’t want to disclose. It’s always like that, the more sex and sexuality issues get talked over, the more resiliant they become. Never mind, sexual therapy is here to stay. Although the avenue into a specialized health couselling still a way off charts. There could happen that some people might try to solve their sexual issues by themselves. On which point considered quite reasonable, once it means that they are catching up with it and coming to terms. Still, some times we need someone else, an expert, so as to make it work efficiently. Then when self-aid is sought, it spells half-way through. The problem within is when the person is there, trying to solve it on her own, and fails, then the sexual life gets left aside so-negleted. It mustn’t be that way, as it only lingers into more trouble and regrets, apart from the concern still without solution, and if the time passes by and the problem sticks out, the best way forward is to through expertise sought after. In order to overcome sexual problems are there sexual psychotherapeuts, who maybe called sexologists. These experts are psychologists or doctors who got deep into getting done and over with sexual problems. Most people seemed reluctant in seeking expertise, affraid of going up against sexual issues, as of their sexuality. Most of the time, money isn’t a deterrant, the problem lies in accepting that a problem existed that is already hard to get on top. Next one over, is to come to terms with help given, and read into treatment, once as much as 30% wind up by giving in before getting started. Sexuality stands for key issue as touchy, deserves being dealt with all due respect, by proper approach as sound. Unfortunately there’s still some distorted notions lingering upon sexual therapy. Most people hold that what takes place in there is plain sleaze. In fact, there’s much misconception as to what goes on in a sexual therapy session. There’d never be any sexual activity as per sexual therapy, whether in consultation or by the therapist himself. The recipient would only engage in sexual-congress with those eager to do so. Sexual therapy stands for the approach aimed for dealing with the inadequacies of a couple, their sexual disorders and so on. Within such framework, either the recipient or couple would get the opportunity to come to grips with other symptons that might be lingering, whose triggered process might come directly linked to sex itself. It’s quite usual, for instance, that in a affective relationship that folks might be talking to themselves, without being able to bring it out and forward to the partner, and is the therapy aimed to devise a much needed channel onto reassurance between themselves. Often the sexual complaint lies out in the open, and so too all that’s regarded maisaty, because it wears out the self-esteem, and embodies key element in a life shared by two. Even though the sexual problem may not concern a female partner, its treatment doesn’t necessarily claim for the couple themselves. A sexual therapist should be sought if willing to come terms with the myriad of issues pertaining to sexual dysorders,such as erectile dysfunctions, delayed ejaculation or lagging climax. Whom perhaps, could help the couple in getting on top of sexual discrepancies and even the lack of desire when it comes to sex.The patient at the sexual therapy room, would only have to talk it over and thrive, upon counselling, on what is meant to be done in those days between one therapy session and another. Certain guidelines would be then passed on to the recipient, who in turn follows suit, whenever possible. If otherwise, it’s down to the therapist find out what is missing, and make suitable arrangements. Is needed self-resiliance and trust about towards the sexual therapist, rather than giving up only because things aren’t going faststeady. It’s such a lenghty process ( depending on personal requirements). If there’s no trustworthy betwen parties, catching up with the rough edges seems plausible. Don’t bottle up any problem of sexual nature, mainly if it plays on the very existence of the couple, seek help, and you’d get everything working just fine, with no furhter nags just because it means sex.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex Myths - Women and Casual Sex,???

Women are not into Casual Sex

Uhm, How about NO... a big fat FALSE.... Long last since it’s coming that the women would most definitely be emotionally embroiled with a man, in order to engage into sexual activity.
They would only have sex with the one affectively willing, disregarding of physical urges. Thus those women having sexual relations without any affective connotation viewed under a bad scope.
As far as the man concerns, such widespread notion as ever and spellbinding as normal, the manhood has by natural demand craved for casual sex while seeking release to constricted libido. In a woman’s standpoint otherwise casual sex might not to be just so.
Such macho-orientated notion that is fed on ever since time immemorial (with the advent of societies, of moral establishment) as it’s ever been, somehow, until today. Most women seemingly able-bodied for blanking anything some such and therefore let themselves in for game of affective strings. There those who by felling so attracted toward some man might as well themselves relish on delightful moments along with him. They would not necessarily fall for a night stand only with Mr. Nobody. Off course, maturity would play influencing on this line of perception, as the vast majority of younger girls still find it difficult , and so does healthy, to string up “detached sex”.
There’s no such a thing as sex got to do with loving. Of what imposed down on women that they would have to love their partners in order to relinquish to them sexually. In the light of reality, a change in notions regarding sexual affairs for all we care as well as revved up the mysterious female sexuality, old-fashioned establishments of chastity and loving are fading away. It’s obvious that sex along with love exists and ought to be just so, however any casual fling every now and then for the woman herself can be as extremely pleasant as healthy.
Those to blame for thriving on this school of thought are the men themselves. One too many find hard to believe that the female motto has changed, and so had sex. Moreover, turns out uneasy for them dealing with someone who wants pleasure only for the sake of it.
Both the male pride and sniffy righteousness inculcated throughout the years as of male orientated misconceptions would not let them accept not being worship by any woman they dragged into bed. They may not look forward to getting themselves committed as opposed to the women themselves.
Although straightforward women endeavor towards sexuality is usually made clear when it comes to sex. Rather interestingly, men in addition tend to think otherwise in that the woman wants more than plain sex, so they might end up pushing her aside to prevent “hurting her”.
Once ked amiss debunked, claims made herein not appraise free sex much as shed light on the equal rights of a woman not to fall for some body she just had sex with so as to prevent any playing upon her own “dignity”. Freedom within exchange of caress works both ways and would be good if our male counterparts begin accepting this happens more often than they could ever imagine. Sex no longer emulates love so did the women. In a nut shell, acceptance from male public that is, now made aware that most women won’t stand for less and are into casual sex as well.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sex and Sin

An issue deemed controversial by the western Christian society is the biased sexuality. Hence the sex act which ought to encompass one of the most enthralling if not enlightening humanly assets quite often ends up by turning into a burdensome, self-degrading even so “ lewd”. act as it were. Since when should always be this way?
Back in the heydays of adolescence already get us confronted by forthcoming dilemmas, it’s when someone wants relatives kept in good terms despite his conflicting sexuality streaks by a “grownup’” standpoint( i.e. the society itself). The outcome, the teen begins to perceive himself as a “ perverted” so much for insecure and overburden.
In the midst of those peoples likely freed from this sort of concern, are found the Polynesians, inhabitants of the Samoan Island, Hawaii, Tahiti, and Low Archipelago, in the Pacific Ocean.
In these islands, endeavor bias towards sex affairs means essentially appreciative. The natives tend to read sex as it really is, as a means of indulging into erotic adventures, without neither physical nor mental holding back. Their children relish on sexual freedom as pleased , leniency as such promoted by the relatives themselves. As opposed to what takes place in the western world, there’s nothing hidden away from the children, eve sleeping close by the genitors (whose sex affairs are witnessed as usual). And so does masturbation is considered natural anyhow, and because of that endorsed equally by genitors.
Thus initiation gets underway as early as puberty upon reaching threshold, so as to enable themselves to enjoy sex thoroughly. This rite of passage is undergone by seasoned boys and girls alike, an uncle or auntie, or any other next of kin from parenthood. it’s interesting that, despite so much sexual freedom, not many children are born. After marriage, it’s used to carry on acting in the same way altogether and in relation to the kids.
Being highly experienced in sexual techniques and incapable of feeling any shame or guilt-like feeling with regard to the sex act.
All of which rebound from the positive outlook kept by the Polynesians in regard to sexuality. By contrast to the positive stance of the Polynesians towards sex, is the one from the western Christian society , repression, shame, frustration and guilt doom.
The fact explains itself mainly by the endeavor perceived in the religious moral. Christ had very few remarks if none about sex or sexual behavior.
The former priests from the church were those who set up the basic rules followed suit by the adepts, kept under management of the missionary Saint Paul. Since early stage he who staunchly placed himself in the seek of “truly Good”. none the less, Paul wasn’t any undefeatable misogynist .
Overstated did he not, as so did Buda, that is impossible to lead a life of renounces when married. He did go on to say only that would be easier to become a truly missionary from Christ for those whom dedicated full time to the task. In other words, given little or any attention to sex.
When ilk are used to openly acceptance of sex as pleasant wise and at the same time as undeniable contingency, fewer are the odds for any pertaining aspect of their sexual behavior could induce fostered feelings of guilt or shame.
Those children who at early stage would receive common knowledge passed on the endeavor when it comes to sexual intercourse, yet stand lesser chance of suffering from both physical and psychological shortfalls of so many couples as of our society.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Casual Sex

Today, with the rise of women liberty and the facility to meet new people, going to sites like Internet dating or talking with people in messenger coms devices, the so-casual sex is something that comes together with these elements. The one-night stands can be good for people, to realize some sex fantasies and feel sexier and powerful. On top of that, however, it’s likely to bring out, in case it doesn’t last, feelings of rejection regret or guilt.
The mood of adventure make many young people look for casual sex. Quality control, for them, is a big issue. People who search for casual sex usually prefer Internet profiles with personal pictures and descriptions. When the objective is purely casual sex, punters generally show only images of themselves naked, covering their faces or taking photos with zoom, directed towards specific parts of the body. They say what type of person they are looking for, and, when they find this one, they mark an encounter.
It’s important to put real and actual photos in these profiles, or, contrary, people can constrain others, being personally ugly and someone really beautiful in the pictures. Those who look for casual sex aren’t promiscuous. They have personality within and come from all cultures and social positions. They can have the best sex of their lives with a stranger, as find many stupid people. It’s difficult to tell who means well when everybody is dealing with appearances and trying to be what they aren’t ever.
The advantage of this sexual openness is that it’s possible to find someone interesting and get good sex. People can, however, fall in love and suffer from this, or even help someone to cheat on his partner. To kick in casual sex, one has to be emotionally prepared for it, and not expect it to last more than a day and turn out to be a lifetime relationship. It’s also important to remember that a strange isn’t all trustable, and casual sex can be dangerous. To avoid risks, ask references to the person and combine what is going to be done at the encounter.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Myths about Orgasms

According to update supplied by the international research agencies, only twenty five percent of the worldwide female population reaches only one orgasm in a lifetime. Such figure might seem awkward somewhat, but though it‘s real. What could be made of it is that most women fake having orgasm during most of their sexual relations, given that sexual freedom has entitled them to thrive on such thrill. Having an orgasm is something to be learnt, and won’t take place over night. For a long time, the women couldn’t induce pleasure during sexual intercourse, so-repressed to the extent of addressing themselves to their partners as subservient to some omnibus, Mr. knows all. Having sex would be in the dark, when the man so-wished, no matter if the woman agreed or not. Pleasure in itself was meant for the pros, which they used to employ into entertainment and pleasure of the men themselves.In the last century, however, had the sexual revolution taken place, fact as such that changed the frame of mind and the act of most women. They began to push forward into the job market, sharing domestic chores and yet demanding the rights for indulging themselves while having sex. Despite orgasm can’t strike without her being in good terms with herself. She would have to acknowledge herself, fine tuning with her bodily functions, her senses and feelings in that mastering how to deal with all the commitment with her own sexuality. It took her toppling over centuries in a row of repressions and stained imagery towards female sexuality. It translates itself into deep insecurity, to date, surrounding what meant the sex act and how to strike it. Feeling part of a sexual relation as a vector of the rapport means worlds apart from letting the other taking the lead, from head to tail. Now sex means trade off, and depending on how the woman deals with it, she may or may not switch.The woman must be in good terms with herself and on top of her deeds by and large, so that she would be able to let herself go not holding anything back. Any given change in routine could trigger uneasiness, much as happens to the men. Any affective relation that faces upheavals bears in it reason enough for messing up with orgasm, financial hiccups, housing concerns, health wise problems or anything likely to get in the way of sexual fun. Yet, great many women hardly know their own bodies and what is most suitable for them when it comes to sex. Most of them don’t masturbate as to unveil their sensitive prone spots, and others barely make up of orgasm means, let alone how it reflects upon the body while having sex. In brief, it comes as no surprise that still today; many women seemed unable to reach orgasm. They simply fake pleasure which they might have ever felt before or either reached in a bygone era. To know oneself, your own body and so-feelings seems the key for fulfilling such a fruitful sexual life. Even though orgasm absent, pleasure within sex itself stands for valuable asset towards a well-balanced relationship along with the other and with yourself. Seeking orgasm in all its guises could mess up with any sexual relation and affective rapport. Once there would be much frustration other than let sex itself taken its course. Hence, we can get the most out of it, instead of only the aftermath.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Multiple Orgasms

To both sexes, a spree of sexual response means the embodiment of a peculiar string of events. Arousal is heightened and leads to climax. In men physiological rebounds are erection and ejaculation both. In women are vasoconstriction-lubrication and orgasm. What’s if the women get to experience many orgasms in a row? The phase of genital constriction-lubrication in the woman stands for, in terms of physiology, the erection in man. Also the orgasmic reflex is analogue in both sexes. The discrepancy is that the woman doesn’t ejaculate. Notwithstanding, the female orgasm follows the same pathway. On top of that, manifests itself by a similar response to the ejaculation spree. In man, the orgasm is induced by the fretting of both the gland and foreskin paced up. And so does the woman reach orgasm by stimulating on the clitoris. Thus in man, triggers orgasm a wave of rhythmic contractions of those muscles located in the base of the penis and perineum (the surrounding area of the sexual organs and anus). The orgasmic response in woman also involves contraction of such muscles. Normally, the men would undergo a refractory stint post climax and shooting. That’s to say, being rendered unable to experience another orgasm and ejaculation within the same sexual threshold. As for the women, so long as properly aroused, become capable of having new orgasms onwards any point past resolution (the last in sexual cycle, arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution). Such tendency becomes even more apparent if sexual arousal is kept on going. Thus multiple orgasms don’t differ physiologically, in any aspect of significance, from a single one, except in their multiplicity. And yet, remain far from sidekicks. Those multiple orgasms would more easily occur during clitoral stimulation, rather than upon vaginal penetration. It’s all to do, apparently, with the fact that only a few men seem capable of keeping a hardon long enough to induce their partners to get multiple orgasms. However possible it may seem. Any orgasm feels physiologically much the same, but could be felt in a somewhat different way. A discreet sexual climax comes in general followed by three up to five shudders, otherwise; it could be much stronger though, and come out followed by eight of so-shudders if not more. At the spring of orgasm a flashy black out is likely to occur, namely suspension or switching off. Followed afterwards by some heightened clitoral response, meanwhile spreads upwards into the pelvic area. At this moment, some women would come to experience a certain sensation of discharge. Others might feel as though got themselves sprawled out for having all in. The second phase comes linked to sprees of hotflash. By initially taken over the pelvic area, and then spreading throughout the body. In the last stage, the woman is in for a wave of contractions by the vagina or perineal surroundings. From the sensorial standpoint, the orgasm carries out some experience likely to vary from woman to woman. At times it feels like a soothing spree, in which the body gets entirely overtaken by sexed up sensations. As far as many women concern, it would encompass a heightened moment, of total detachment. For others, gets to the extent of becoming somewhat awkwardly, coupled with jerky movements and piercing utters.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Sexual Climax and Male Multiple Orgasms

Multiple orgasms resemble a woman’s thing ultimately, as of the woman’s realm, given the lagged time required by the man after cum, and with the woman nothing of the kind means necessary, so long as she’s kept well-sexed up. Did you know that male multiple orgasms exist however elusive? All that female lead during sex ceases past men cum, wherein much confusion gets mongered, since in men, orgasm comes alongside ejaculation, which spells the end of the male part in the sex act. It renders him knackered but far from useless, as opposed to what many women would think. Male climax should stop only when the woman could thrive on ultimate sexual pleasure. Given that their biological rate works somewhat differently. Multiple orgasm is the most powerful physical pleasure that a man could derive ever and his best ever opportunity to pull it out, which in turn becomes the woman’s ultimate sexual approach. The first and foremost is when the male acknowledges and feels incline to indulge himself totally subjected to his partner’s whims, deploying all his powers for her to takeover his indulgence, and then decide whether multiple orgasms would be required. A man can get a hardon with neither orgasm nor ejaculating. Sexual climax in itself doesn’t necessary have to cease upon ejaculation.Some devices promote sexual climax without triggering any ejaculatory response. Its sensation may linger on. There’s no such a thing as energy gone wasted by multiple orgasms, hence the man doesn’t feel so tired in the end, what renders him trigger happy, all pepped up and looking forward to carrying on. A quickie is no match to multiple orgasms. Non ejaculatory orgasm is way more intense, cyclic, and boost up energy and heighten joy likewise. Together deciding when to stop and only then whether coming into ejaculation or else. Her support means paramount. Men in their vast majority seem unaware of their multiorgasmatic capability and only concerned about reaching sexual climax as quick as possible so as to ensure that their role as machos is undertaken, and that is regarded as insecurity somehow. The decision of shooting turns into a well-thought off and mature move onto primarily conception. It too rendered much more concise and devoid of pleasure. According to Tantra, an ancient creed from Indian origins, never a man should ejaculate, because the semen should remain within his body regarded as divine spice as it were. How about sexual climax made to last. Cum but not ejaculating. A Fool guide’s on how to reach out for multiple and ultimate orgasms. Yet, the main point is to acknowledge and control those pubic muscles that are brought into play upon ejaculation. Male orgasm depends on its twitching capability. Exercising is pretty straightforward, just pretend reliving yourself and clench tight suddenly then let go and do it again and again, repeatedly about three sets of ten reps. It goes bingo. There can’t be missed. Give it a go. Mind those droplets though.

Kisses,

Jesse~

CLITORIS: THE SEXUAL TREASURE

For those in the know the clitoris whereabouts, yet aware of its yielded sexual response, might as well call it the jewel of sexual indulgence and who knows perhaps, of a hidden treasure. Diamonds are nowhere near the exquisite jewel that the woman bears on her figure, the clitoris. The best approach to establish its location is by probing. Also visual approach could be staged, for all it takes is a mirror and a good sight. You will come across with a subtle lump where the big lips outline a v-shape like, up in the vagina. About pea size although covered only the outer side, which lies partially embedded in such an inconspicuous hood. Upon touching such tip, ya woman will derive some thrilling sensation. But even touching takes heed and time however. Likewise the penis made of erectile tissue although unequal shape wise. Therein a nerve pathway lies embedded, splinted in two elongated parts. Directly linked into the pelvic area. Upon sexual arousal, foreplay, bloodstream starts being pumped up into your clitoris, leading the vagina into natural moistening. Meanwhile, the whole genital surroundings would gorge with ongoing blood, becoming rather sensitive. The sexual pearl, gets gorged with blood, likely to turn itself pinkish or even darker, whilst its ducts get hardened on altogether. In which point, the muscles and connective tissue gear into a paced throb motion. What becomes relevant to the partner’s acknowledgement is how delicate a sexual organ the clitoris is. So therefore its property of inducing sexual pleasure, might, if inadequately or else bluntly approached, trigger much pain and distress. In order to keep it at bay, as discomforting to the receiver as to the giver, few hints could be given, Explaining that despite being considered the female penis, it mustn’t be approached as such. Encourage the partner onto exploring the genital surroundings, prior to strike the magic button, yet rather smoothly. In a nutshell, make sure your partner does not forget to be creative at the foreplay and show consistency anyhow until the end. What is it for? Because creativity first hand works out by gearing the sexual department up, in that changing pace and intensity on the probing approach. So far, tell the partner to come out as repetitive as predictable since you’d be about to cum then. That is what clitoral orgasm is about. Oral sex provides moist, warmth and sooth under the right measure for the clitoral indulgence. More often than not penetration leaves the clitoris a lot to desire; in addition the tongue teases the lips nearby promoting even more satisfaction Tip; insert the tongue well inside the vagina and work all the way up, unhurriedly. Let it be known what it feels like. It is very important as he would be made aware as to whether it feels right or otherwise. Orgasm stands for sexual climax, which could be stricken upon sexual-affective sprees.Is needed a lot of arousal for a woman reached orgasm. In being an external sexual organ and easy to rub on, there’d play major role in the sexual indulgence purposes. The pleasure irradiated from it onto the vagina, might orgasm be ensued. Every orgasm means essential. Its localization does not grant itself the prize that tells which is better or worst. Vaginal orgasm becomes easier to reach when the woman straddled on top of the man. In what enabled her better range of motion to get cracking on that clit up against his crouch, therefore geared up quickly. Each woman is unique, so is each orgasm. Its shape does not vary a great deal, given the female physique being so alike in its framework. You woman, should tread and unravel the way that could lead you into bliss on your own. And there are many avenues into delight or arousal to the woman. So too meant important to acknowledge what gives you pleasure the most and share it with your partner. Much as bringing all out that displeases and/or distresses you. The clitoris is a treasure, well-concealed, unveil and bring it forward to your partner, surely he’d love it even more about yourself.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Clitoral vs Vaginal Orgasm II

Pleasure from clitoral orgasm isn’t any weaker than its vaginal counterpart. We’re not supposed to think of better or worst in terms of sexuality. Most often, even in the absence of orgasm, arousal and gratification might suffice for a satisfactory sex life. More important than orgasm is the trade off done by the partners in sexual intercourse, on top of the shared affection and reassurance from one another. In addition, it’s imperative that the woman senses her body, her pros and cons. Means pros in the sense of her gist for keeping cool, psych herself up, being reciprocative and the degree of affection she’d likely to pass onto her partner. So cons carry out the claim that an orgasm is due so long as the woman acknowledges her body and grows aware of what to do with it when it comes to sex. Hardly ever did a woman come into vaginal orgasm without first being made well-aware of her sexuality.Female orgasm is far from being such an easy to understand issue. On it hinges a host of factors like the degree of sexuality, affection, self-esteem, and reciprocative ways from the associate, to name a few. Only a quarter of the world’s female population gets barely an orgasm in a lifetime. Such frenzy leads into failure most likely. Such degree of anxiety could mess up with a relationship and prevent sexual rapport from furthering balanced wise. The woman then rendered more often than not unable to reach orgasm. It’s a knock on effect that’s bound to trigger further failure and even more despair for her. It’s pointless that she who doesn’t have vaginal orgasms starts to feeling threatened or undermined towards her sexuality. The name of the game is self-indulgence and either can be as pleasurable as healthy. Mind you that most women have clitoral orgasms, once more reliable, be it masturbation or sexual relation.Post sexual liberation got orgasm on the agenda. Having the woman shifted from the condition of mere participant in sexual relation into active role. From reproductive sex she moved on to enjoying sex for her own pleasure sake. Reproductive sex means instinctive, fair enough both the male and female bodies got together and intercourse gets underway. Needless the woman to feel pleasure neither desire her partner. She doesn’t even have to move. As for sex by the sake of pleasure, calls for desire, lust, and mutual agreement, proactive onwards the role of give and take. And so too the women should learn how to get on with it, otherwise, unaware of their own physical attributes, often fail in delivering what is expected from them. Orgasm isn’t a female duty. Alias can come out of masturbation or sexual relation regardless. To land on it is the right frame of mind and self-awareness needed that’s attained along the way and by the sexual background of every single woman. Whichever way it comes doesn’t spell sexual problems nor means sexual health. Both types of orgasm can be highly gratifying and ensued at any stage in life maybe, with any kind of partner, in any instance. In a nut shell, inducing orgasm and thriving on its yielded pleasure is what really counts.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Clitoral vs Vaginal Orgasm I

By definition, clitoral orgasm is due in the clitoris, whereas the vaginal one ensues in the vagina, or else the combination of both. There used to be major fuss about which of them would suit sex life best later in adulthood, and which one could entice further delight. This debate grown louder when Freud quoted that the woman would have clitoral orgasms in a primordial sexual stage, in other words, during oral, anal and latency phases of her psychosexual rearing. By the time she gets into full-blown sexual life (the genital one), her orgasms would be vaginal, denoting physical and psychological maturity. In case the woman couldn’t reach any vaginal orgasm by the sexual relations at large, was branded by him as sexually unfledged. Few decades after, Alfred Charles Kinsey, entomologist and zoologist in the US (author of the well-known Kinsey Report), demystify this idea, by stating that the clitoris would take active part in the female orgasm, meaning neither sexual immaturity nor sexual problems. This author opened doors into further understanding of the female orgasm, contributing, hence, into the sixties’ sexual revolution.To date it’s pointed that the orgasm could be either vaginal or clitoral, better yet, both. Usually, the women have clitoral orgasms, as easier to induce and more intense than those vaginal ones. Whichever strikes likings got nothing to do with sexual health, but though, with personal traits and self-awareness. The clitoris comprises endless nerve pathways, which stand for the core of sexual pleasure. In striking upon this area rather intense orgasms would be triggered, however sharper, as in shorter duration. Felt rather bore into the genitals. Clitoral orgasm can spring out of masturbation, or even along sexual intercourse, surfeited by her or partner aided. The vagina bears nervous endings in its initial measures (ranging three or four centimeters across), in a lower rate than the clitoris itself. So much so for the vaginal orgasm indulged in penile stimulation or whatever renders it, much stronger, lengthened and felt as if yielded by the entire body, not just by the genitals. And yet there’s the so-called combined one, which is the one felt in the vagina and clitoris altogether. Yielded through penetrative sex and simultaneous clitoral stimulation, conducted by the woman herself, he or else, by the assets on the male figure (like tummy or testicles as per the doggy style, figure of speech). Not many women are able to spark this one out, but it could strike in any point of their lives. It goes without saying that stimulation of either isn’t enough for striking a particular type of orgasm. Even with penile penetration, orgasm could be triggered by the clitoris, because it’s the most sensitive area yet gets highly stimulated. Certain women, be it masturbation or sex acts, upon clitoral stimulation, wond up by having vaginal orgasm. It will range on the sensibility rate of each and every one.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Women Orgasms

Women are bound to change when sexually aroused. Each one tends to react differently. Some would grow outspoken others may turn standoffish. Emotion outbursts come under all sorts of guises, all of which linked to psychological and cultural background. Although in physiological terms, changes tend to be more subdue. What about inside the female body prior and during orgasm.Meantime in the threshold of sexual arousal, the vaginal vault grows enlarged. In the absence of input the vaginal walls would be kept tight together. Otherwise, when aroused, the vagina turns into a real moisten duct, enabled to withstand a shovelled up hardon penis quite easily. If, by any chance, the woman happens to be switched off, her vagina could remain dry and even tighten. In which point could render penetration uncomfortable, or even painful. The uterus starts to retrieve slightly. The small lips achieve stronger pigmentation, become thicker and stretch outwards. The big lips get flatten and sprawl lengthwise, shifting from the inner line. By the breasts, one of the primary signs for heighten sexual drive is the propped up nipples. Meanwhile, the breasts themselves bulk up and their vascularization pops out. In this stage, breathing does not get disrupted, although the heart rate and blood pressure get raised in accordance to the degree of sexual tension reached.The phase named “plateau” stands for the state of deep arousal, which precedes climax. Bodily reactions within this stage also spring from, in most part, pumped up bloodstream. An alteration to single out is the built up of sexual tension. It’s an area of vasoconstriction covering in and around the vagina entrance.Upon heightening in sexual arousal, the small lips grow even thicker and acquire lush pigmentation, which ranges from crimson to dark red. The uterus finishes its upward dislodgement. The vaginal vault reaches maximum engorgement. Shortly prior orgasm, the clitoris retracts and gets concealed under a membrane called “clitoral hood”. Muscular strain increases, voluntarily or involuntarily, partially in the face, abs and torso. Breathing becomes faster and louder. The heart rate ranges from 110 up to 180 beats per minuteThe plateau could be perceived as the stage in which the female system stores up both physical and psychic energies, under constant sexual tension, until ready to channel up all its powers on to orgasm reaching.

Kisses,

Jesse~

All About Orgasms

To these days a lot of women find fulfillment in sex, but never heard of orgasm. Although not comprising the overall sexual response neither it’s main goal, an absence of orgasm dictates a certain handicap into the woman’s accomplishment. A sexual affair may never spring into female orgasm but that shouldn’t be any reason for annoyance. Nevertheless, when it doesn’t exist she shall reconsider her expectations from sex. Up until recently, as far as most women were concern, was the main goal in sex restricted to reproduction purposes. Now are not satisfied only by the role of wife and mother. What establishes the motto into their lives is the way how they get along with those so-presumed worthwhile ones. Thus, how they interact sexually mirrors how much they’d appraise themselves and someone else’s. Some of the values of most significance for the mankind get furthered within such bespoke relationship -affectivity, understanding and reassurance. Within less repressive societies, the likelihood of incidence for problems like frigidity is much lesser than in cultures like ours. On the same line of perception, the American anthropologist Margaret Mead would state that “the woman’s capability for reaching orgasm might be or not heighten by a given culture”. Well, not so long ago, the western perception not only failed in furthering such potentiality, as well as suppressed and stood against. In fact, cultural backwash often placed the woman in a pigeon hole, she was supposed to mold, undermine or mimic her knack for sexual outing, as to make it more suitable for some false sense of prudish, culturally inculcated. Hence, the women always seemed afraid of speaking their minds about their own sexuality. Had their patterns of sexual behavior rearranged accordingly with the mainstream notions of normality, instead of probing their true feelings and sex-linked urges Having developed some peculiar sexual pattern, according to which a caring wife, for instance, would have to feel pleased by simply yielding pleasure to the husband, disregarding of whether she herself couldn’t get any satisfaction out of it.This instance, which lasted for centuries, started to shift in the sixties’, mostly in big cosmopolitan centers of the developed world. Upon then emerged their claims for equity in the social role of a woman. The claim for equality of rights with the male counterpart meant a breakthrough into the traditionalist framework of dependency and submission, in every single streak. Sexual pleasure started to get perceived as right of both partners. A woman wasn’t supposed to take part in a relationship just to give pleasure to the man, but also to get herself some from him. In practice, wasn’t always easy for the well-clued up woman to modify her sexual behavior, threaded in ages of bias. But the main point is that, back in the 60’s, had witnessed awareness raised towards this issue.An array of factors did contribute to the women began to snap out of their lingering sexual repression, and started to make headway towards equality. In the midst, are accounted the discoveries of some fieldworkers into the sexual physiology of female. Owing to studies from such man-of-science, the women became aware that sexual hang-ups, other than being harmless, would call for clarifying.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Oral Sex AKA Fellatio

It’s almost unanimous. The male public loves downright having their sexual tools sucked on and I for one, haven’t met yet the man who doesn’t either. Rather than any sensation driven by having his penis licked, swallowed and sucked by, a man’s sexual pleasure lies within watching all being done while enjoying and thriving on the threshold of so-sensations, only fellatio could yield. Positions of preference by the man are those in which overall view of the sexual act comes out perfect, be it from a direct angle or indirect as through mirrors, disregarding of whether standing up, sited or lying down. Still today, a great many men are being deprived from oral sex by their counterparts, what makes them more often than not go after pros and get it done. Those women, who refuse to get down to oral sex on their partners, would do so moved by all sorts of reasons. Worth the note, perhaps due to stoic sexual education back in youth, wherein religious and moral issues have made oral sex seemingly somewhat sinful, naughty, nasty and outlandish. There would be those however who simply don’t do it because it seems “disgusting”. In addition, there’s who like oral sex and would do it not just for their own sake, but also to get themselves some in return. These women would thrive on the moment in which they find themselves in total control of the situation, while the other solely watches patiently, once she is the one who sets the pace right and calls the shots. He in turn, gets rendered entirely submissive by the ferocious appetite of his partner over his manhood and that becomes highly pleasurable when skillfully done. It goes without saying that a good head wields long lasting memories, if not lifelong. For many, it’s not just a superb foreplay, might as well become starter, main course and dessert. Maybe sticks out as the only flick within sex, in that, the man could be entirely passive. Obviously the man can act out actively, and so-“shag” the partner’s mouth, either gently or bluntly, since all boils down to personal taste. A less likely situation, due, perhaps ultimately, to physical constraints, is the practice of self-fellating, whose name speaks for itself. This approach calls for a great deal of elasticity and good range of motion, and could be the reason why the majority of them failed in doing so. Actually for some, this tendency may denote some homosexual leniency; otherwise, it’s worth mentioning that the penis is part of your own body and as such, poises no reason for not being kissed or sucked. Hence, the likelihood with the fingers or any other body part within their reach. After all who else other than yourself would be able to induce that spellbinding spree of oral sex for yourself?

Kisses,

Jesse~

Oral Sex Techniques for Women (Fellatio) 2

Once upon the male sexual organ itself, the woman could go about licking, even nibbled on it (careful not to hurt such nerve pathway embedded in). Place the whole thing in the mouth and use the tongue to play its way around the shaft, amidst other sexual devices there might be devised or even hinted by the man himself. Some like it rough. Others however favor oral sex in somewhat delicate fabrics, as in the embodiment upon rather subdue motions. There’d be up to sexual partners the atmosphere and ambiance altogether, of which hardly ever repeat itself for the same couple. Meantime she could move on to his sex then fro into the legs or elsewhere as pleased. Maybe suckling only on the tip of his sex. Perhaps. Try and lick his sex as if licked a frozen stick, always with due sexiness yet within pace set up together. While the mouth is on his sex, her hands could be running all over his male torso, her gaze probing deep into his, in which point some men would find extremely arousing sexually speaking. There exist such men as less “uptight”, who wouldn’t mind their sexual partners sticking a finger up their anus, or thereabouts, better yet giving it a good licking, though such men are still few and far in between so, permission must be asked or else, oral sex could turn into disappointment for both. The pressure exerted by the tongue and even by the teeth may oscillate somewhat, promoting a certain “fright” or expectation from him towards what she’s meant to do. Not to mention that all takes place under sex wise atmosphere, that’s painless, with plenty of work on their fantasies altogether thus sex prone spots. The use of mint drops, ice cream, ice, or even sandals ointment usually turns men on and a lot. This is so because these products “freeze” the area, which triggers shivers that’s such a turn on for men. And her tongue grows even moisten and harsh, which is another turn-on for them. Oral sex, apart from foreplay could envelope the whole sexual intercourse. One can stick with oral sex, for instance, when a woman undergoes her period or is not in the mood or unable to lead penetrative sex. Certain male rather shoot his cum over his female sexual partner, yet that she’d swallow it. To begin with, there’s nothing wrong with that, however if the other happens to disagree, no need for doing so, it’s her choice, given that most women dislikes it. So far, oral sex on a man isn’t such a big deal at all. The couple ought to catch up with their differences in their own time, coming to terms along the way. Tips herein are only a rough idea or hint of how it could be approached, without making it sound such an overstatement. In sex there’s no such code of practice and the couple could think through it, talk it over and try on what they reckon would work out best for both. It’s always good to remind that the woman is entitled to feel comfortable with the idea of going down on a man. Otherwise, it would be faded to boredom, almost mechanical response framework. If both agree on that, in principle, there’d be no drawbacks by far.

Kisses,

Jesse~

Oral Sex Techniques for Women (Fellatio) 1

Fellatio is the name given to oral sex performed by a woman on a man. It doesn’t stand for simply placing the mouth on his penis and carry on sucking it until arousal or climax. More than just ordinary mechanical response, oral sex on a man must lead into pleasure and the further improved it gets, the better the understanding within a couple would be. Certain women can’t stand it, feel put off by the sight of a male sex or afraid that the partner would tag her too straightforward from knowingly how to go about business. All of it got to do with the stigma that still lurks around oral sex, so much for turned casual as sexual appetizer; there are those who call it dirty, disgusting or naughty. Here there won’t be discussed, only a few tactics that could aid women feeling more at ease about the idea of doing it on their partners. To start with, the use of condoms means core. Even though it would be one of the hardest forms of contracting HIV, there could take place via oral sex. So, prevention plays major role. If prior or post either vaginal or anal sex condoms must be replaced at all times. Positioning for partners would mean cornerstone on the arousal threshold, once oral sex works not just on the man but also on the woman herself. The most widespread position is the man laid down on his back and the woman placed between his legs. Otherwise, both lying lengthwise with her head leveled at his groin height. Improved overall leverage altogether. There could be performed on the bed/chair/sofa edge while she got on her knees in front of him. Yet with her kneeling down, he could stand up. Lastly, the 69’s, wherein both lye down with bodies outstretched alongside, in which point could one give and receive oral sex from another. Fellatio could be performed in bed, by the staircase, on top of the dinner table, in the car, under the shower head, on the floor, so far, anywhere, so long as there’s creativity abound to emulate and thrive on this foreplay or main event of a sort, as wished. Care should be taken however, concerning location so-avoid getting caught while at sexual liaisons, as there could be a fine charged upon decency violation. She could get it started with the hands by masturbating him in the first place, emulating then some atmosphere of pure expectation with bias towards the feel of her tongue. Plus could go on to kissing the physique of her man, his male chest, and neck, tree trunks, going as far as the arms or feet, without approaching the penis straightaway. A great many men grow extremely excited from such trip on their bodies. It goes without saying that the skin is such a huge sexual organ, riddle with touch-prone spots so, not only women but also men grow quite excited by the feel on spots elsewhere other than the penis only. Upon drawing close to his manhood, she could get on with it by the testicles, a tongue probing right by his inner thighs, getting around his rod only afterwards. On it, she would employ her hands in giving a pump or else, leave the entire job for her tongue. Some men swear by tongues others however prize the use of hands. Once both sampled plus let the other takeover, would help catching up with personal preferences.

Kisses,

Jesse~